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writes:So the thing with that guy didn't work out. I have a problem with falling too quickly in love or having a huge crush on someone, then it ends up sucking. All the guys I've liked have only liked me for a short period of time or not at all. They lead me on, treat me so sweet and like I'm the most precious gem they've ever seen. When it comes to liking me though, its a total and complete no. They see me as an ugly weird freak, so I honestly feel like I have no hope with guys. My question(s) is/are: How do you get over heartbreak quickly? How do you not let what people say about your looks get to you? Lastly, how do you keep yourself from falling so easily? Thanks! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2013): hi there! let me answer your question.your statement:The thing I don't understand is why guys lead me on for no reason, instead of telling me straight up that they don't like me. Also, about the ugliness issue, the only compliments I even get are from family, friends (obvs) and random adults. Every other person says I'm ugly and weird. It hurts bc I hear it like everyday and the people that say it find it hilarious. Lastly, thanks and I will try not to fall so easily. :)vMy Answer: Guys dont tell you they don't like you straight up because its not polite. Most of all they cant just assume you like them. Or in case you have told them your feelings. Most guys appreciate that. But it doesn't mean that they have the same feelings for you.If other see you weird or ugly, don't mind them. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. I feel so sorry for you.your only 13 or 15. whatever, sometimes you just need someone to teach you how to groom yourself. Maybe you just need a little make over, for you to feel good about yourself. I can help you with that. Let me know. You need to say to yourself, I love Myself, and i wont let anyone make me feel down.We can be happy without having the worry of the approval of other people. Their opinion doesn't count at all.Lets just say, if someone tell you, you can't paint. Well Paint anyway.
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reader, justinsmuse +, writes (22 June 2013):
justinsmuse is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you both! :)
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reader, justinsmuse +, writes (20 June 2013):
justinsmuse is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe thing I don't understand is why guys lead me on for no reason, instead of telling me straight up that they don't like me. Also, about the ugliness issue, the only compliments I even get are from family, friends (obvs) and random adults. Every other person says I'm ugly and weird. It hurts bc I hear it like everyday and the people that say it find it hilarious. Lastly, thanks and I will try not to fall so easily. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2013): hi there! don't be sad darling your too young. forgetting someone you like is not as easy as 123 unless you learn from a jerk. I'm not saying 'm a jerk though.Or maybe I am.Well, not really, I wish I am.With your question how not to fall so easily?As you mature, you will learn from your experiences with guys or relationships.As your getting old, you begun to set a standard.Stick to your standard, Because that will be your guide.So you wont fall with jerks.No matter how attractive, how exciting or cute the guy be strong not to fall especially if he doesn't meet your standard. so that way, you wont fall so easily. Never be afraid of letting go, because sometimes it happens for a reason. Its so sad but that's life. your young, wild and free. Just have fun and enjoy being young. Don't take guys seriously unless,his worth it. Pray and have fun...
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