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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (14 June 2012):
 Honey, I think you are beating a dead horse. He has told you how he views your relationship. I think you should take him at his word. But if you decide to still hang out with him be prepared to prolong your pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2012): There are exceptions. But a man in the friend zone usually stays there. Very few men hang out with a woman that they wouldn't sleep with if they got the chance.
Don't confuse the latter with a bona fide relationship. Just that it would be taken further if the woman allowed it to go there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know he has also has sexual feelings for me coz he would quite often tell me i was looking extremely good the night befir And putting inaporopriate thoughts in his head. and would tell me all the time that hes been udressing me with his eyes and stuff ect. we always have gad a glirty relationship. so if he thinks im attrctive and we are sexually compatible and i think we r pretty compatible in other area why wont hebgive us a try??
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 June 2012):
 "not compatible enough" is code for "I don't have sexual feelings for you"
you can't make him love you
you can't fix it.
you are seen as a friend only by him
you have to accept that. IF you cant' accept that you will pine away for him and lock out all other men that could be partners.
perhaps for a while you need to go NO Contact till you meet a romantic partner then you can add him back to your friend mix.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe did say "as amazingly attractive as you are, i just dont think we are compatible". however our convos via fb n email are always long and a rew of my other friends asked how we could not be compatible when we have that much to say. so what did he mean by we "arent compatible"? we like the same music, being outdoors, ect. i just dont understand wgat he means. does that mean i actually am in the friend zone? and can i get out of it?? :-( thanks for the advice. x
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 June 2012):
Interesting, the friend zone is male specific? I disagree. Any person can view others as ONLY friend material not ever to be a romantic possibility.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2012): The friend zone is for guys. Women can get out any time they put their mind to it.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 June 2012):
You would be wasting your time I'm afraid. He's made it very clear he only sees you as a friend. The friend zone is practically escape proof.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsorry for crap spelling. im on my phone
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni really dont want to lose his friendship becoz we been freiends for so long. and what does he mean we are not compz
TIble enough? he did tell me it he really wNted us to still be friends nd thatcit was up to me if we were. and that hw would understand if i didnt want to. o know i should say no. wd only see each other like once a month anyway so it would be easy to not see him. but he reLly.is the nicest friend u could meet. :-( i just dobt wana hurt when i see him .is there neway i can make my self more compatible with him ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2012): I agree. When it's one-way you are always hoping for more and he has told you that won't happen, so better to back off and give yourself the chance to find someone who returns your feelings.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (12 June 2012):
You'll most likely be hurting for a very long time if you try to stay friends with him. The only way I know of to get over unrequited love is to to avoid contact of any kind with the object of your affection. The out of sight out of mind principle is the only way to go.
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