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writes:can anyone one tell me what their definition of love is? or how did you feel/know that it was love? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): Oooooo.. I love this quesiton because I love my hubby SO much and you ask for each persons' definition, so I can't be wrong!
Lovelovelove..
I'd say is.. You spend your days just wanting him to be happy, and do whatever you can to make him happy. Even if that means going out of your way, and then of course, not telling him that you went out of your way because you just want him to be happy.. no strings attached. It's when every attribute of his you crave, and every fault you find adorable in my case, but in most, at least bareable.
You know that saying "love means never having to say you're sorry"?
BS
Love is learning to say you're sorry. It's getting over your pride and selfishness and knowing when you've hurt him and just saying you're sorry. It's the ability to abrubptly end an arguement because he looked at you the right way and touched you the right way and you just love him too damn much to keep being mad. And then it's beingn frustrated that he never lets you stay mad.. but not beign able to do anythign about the fristration, becuase he won't let you be frustrated!
It's keepig your promises. It's listening to what he says and if he says "Could you please go online and make a payment on my credit card," (just an example) you do it. Not becuase you're a slave to him, but because you RESPECT him and if he needs help, you want to be the one helping. It's pure honesty.. when you can't even bring yourself to lie to him to cheat on him to say anything that would hurt him or to even say anythign to anyone else about him that would hurt him if he heard it.
It's a hug and a kiss everytime you see him, an "I love you" everytime you depart, it's not beig afraid to touch any inch of his body beucase it's all part of HIM. It's not letting yourself stray even for a second when you're sleeping together at night.. you always gotta be right there pushed up against him. It's cleaning up his plate when he forgets becuase he's tired, and not bitching about it. It's withholding the urge to yell at him about something small because you know there are more important things. It's patience.
It's true comfort. Knowing you can be yourself and being happy wiht that beucas you know he doesn't want to change you. And most of all, I believe, it's not wanting to chang a single thing about him. Because you accept him as he is.. good and bad and you wouldn't have it any other way.
Oops.. Really sorry for the rant. My man is deployed and you made me start thinking about him.. I know you're young so this may be a little heavy for you, but don't rush love. It'll come. And don't say it when you don't mean it becuase when you finally do mean it for someone one day, you'll wish you hadn't said it before.
~SY.
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reader, Legioness  +, writes (20 June 2009):
 I'd say love is.. Being comfortable with someone, being able to be your true self, missing them even if you've been away from them for an hour or two, imagining spending your whole life with them, imagining building a family with them, not wanting to let them go, you can tell all your secrets to them, be willing to do your up most to keep them happy, can't imagine your life without them, smile and laugh with them through the good times, cuddle and cry with them through the bad times, completely devote yourself to them and no one else, savour their scent on that tshirt they left at your place, 'melt' in their arms, treasure their kiss, and about a zillion other things :)
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