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writes:This is a bit of a strange question. I'm in a relationship and we've been together over 2 years. It has recently become apparent to me that I might be a tad more emotionally invested in the relationship than he is. I don't want to break up with him. I, however, would like to reduce his effect on me to a certain extent. How do you suggest I do this please? I hope I've worded this properly. To clarify, he's not a jerk or a bad bf, I'm just a little more invested than he is and I would like to reduce that for the time being. Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (15 March 2011):
 I'd suggest simply getting involved with something new! The busier I am, the less time I have to get emotionally hooked on something. The more time you have available is time for your brain to get invested and dwell on him. And besides, if you get involved with something new, you'll have new conversation topics with your fella and more stuff you can say that you've done. He will find you more alluring and awesome for going out and building on yourself as an independent woman and person.
Get out more, reconnect with friends, take a class, read a book, join theater, anything! I think it's very cool that you recognize this about yourself and want to dedicate a little more time to YOU! Because remember, the relationship you have with yourself is the longest relationship you'll ever have... so make sure you take care of that it too! Good luck!
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