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writes:I have been happily married for 15 years and I felt in love in a colleague in the past few months. Hopefully, he doesn't share my feelings but he enjoyes having lunch with me. How do I transform my love feeling into a friendship. I would like to keep him as a true friend.please help,virginie
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008): Hi there, I full sympathise with your situation. I am a male and found myself falling for a girl I worked and lunched with. The only way I could deal with it was to end the friendship without giving her the reason. It was a selfish and horrible way to deal with it but I couldn't carry on spending so much time with her with the way I was feeling.
I really hope you can keep this bloke as a friend and keep your feelings in check. I couldn't manage it and now I miss that girls friendship more than I could of ever imagined.
Best of luck
Mark
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reader, eddie  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 Stop fooling yourself and having lunch with him. Stop trying to view this like a Hollywood movie and see it for what it is.....cheating. You are emotionally involved with this guy and your lunches are more like dates. I bet you look forward to time with him and prepare yourself to look pleasing to him. I'd bet my last dollar he's picking up on the vibe too. The biggest disrespect to your marriage is that you continue to put yourself in this guys company.
Understand this, he can not be your friend because you don't want him as a friend. Friends are pals, buddies, chums. That is not what you feel. You can't make an apple an orange. You're at the typical point where you're trying to convince yourself that you can handle this bad situation. It is the first step on the slippery slope.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 Treat him like he is a brother to you.Think of him like your own brother.
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