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writes:Hello everyone! I just wanted your opinion on something. Like if I am going about this the right way?I believe I posted a few posts about this months ago.But just to recap. There is this very shy, very quiet Vietnamese boy that goes to my school. I like him, but it has been kind of difficult talking with him and he sends me alot of mixed signals sometimes. I used to try to talk to him and he would smile and stuff but other times he would act like he's emotionless.(Things like that)I kinda got a little discouraged and stopped trying to get him to talk a little bit more, because I didn't want to bother the kid. All of those(my friends) who have known him longer than me say that just because he ignores me doesn't mean that he is being mean or rude,he is just really not that social at all, and his entire family except for his sister is this way and that it will take some time before he is more comfortable with me. I didn't really believe them lol. Because I always thought that he wasn't as shy as people thought, and that he is quiet because he is just...well...cool like that XD if that makes sense, he seems to act like it a lot and this added to my discouragement, I really did feel like I was bothering him, but something really surprising happened today(that calls for an apology to my friends tomorrow haha)We had a project presentation today,(we had to create a magazine with a poem in it) and my crush was called up to do his. While he was presenting, I was just looking at him, mulling over why I like him(because I don't like crushing on a guy just because he is cute to me, that's not right, yknow?)I found out when he started to speak. In his poem, he actually admitted that he was shy! And that he felt small, and that he worries about what people think about him and how he thinks that people talk about him. He even said that he cries when he feels like it in front of the whole class. I had heard that he had been through a lot, so I figure that's why. He also said that he thought his school year was going to be boring and sad but it wasn't :) and I learned a few other surprising things about him too. I really fell for him at that moment because it takes a lot of courage to stand up to a bunch of kids and express deep emotions like that. And I really like it when a guy is true to himself and is not afraid to admit his fears and his flaws. So far, I know now that he's really talented and sensitive and brave. And it also lets me know that it's okay to try and talk to him a little and if he doesn't respond well it's not him being rude on purpose. The only problem is, I don't really know how to ...talk to him, I think it has to do with me being afraid of him not talking back and making a fool out of myself. It's funny because we have almost all of the same interests but I don't know how to open him up further without being a nuisance.Uhhhh, a few pointers please? Lol thank you guys!
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reader, MrMcgalliard +, writes (16 May 2012):
umm well im guessing theres not a language barrier? my advice would be to just express what you feel to him, ask him who he likes, or just figure out something you can do with him outside of school. you just need to come out of your comfort zone and talk to him more and he'll eventually open up to you...hope it works out ;)
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reader, tebo +, writes (16 May 2012):
talk about neutral things. what is going on in your community that would be a good reason for beginning a conversation? get his opinion on it. talk about grades, a tough test. what is his homeland like? his opinions of it. ask what is his fondest thought when he thinks about his country. ask about the country's food. there are all kinds of subjects perfect for breaking the ice. tell him what makes you really happy. maybe he is looking for a topic to talk to you about. talk about a movie you like, ask him what movie he likes.. ask him on a walk in the park or around the neighborhood....nothing gets a conversation going better than a nice walk
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