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How do I stop or get over my family's ridicule?

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Question - (8 December 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 18 December 2009)
A age 41-50, anonymous writes:

hi, i live in a village which has a massive family who alos live here, they consisit of aunts, uncles, cousins, grandma, grandad etc all scattered around it. my brother had a baby with one of these family memebers a few months back. me and his partner dont get on because she is a nasty piece of work who stppoed my brothers son from living with them when his mum died and myself and my mum and dad do not have anything to do with her.

when she had my brothers child i bought him a teddy and a jacket and put a message on it 'to my new baby nephew, welcome to the big wide world'. her sister promptly threw it in my front garden. then a month later her sister gave me a gobfull outside the village shop, i shouted back saying that i had tried to be nice to her sister by buying the baby a present.

her sister went home, changed the story and made out i had started on her for no reason and she called the police. the police did nothing, only spoke to me and decided to leave it and tell us to keep away from each other. that night one of their family members text me threatening messages, threw stuff over my front room window and left a knife blade in my front door. my brother then sent me a birthday card a week later saying a lot of nasty things and i have to admit i felt suicidal thinking it would never end, the abuse.

well since then i get the families dirty looks, they are pretty hard to ignore i see one of them every time i go out my door. last night my brothers girlfriends cousin saw me and shouted psycho down the street, i laughed out loud and carried on walking. but i feel so angry that i feel i cannnot say something back through fear of her calling police or worse still any of the above happening. in the past i was in the army, ten years ago i would have thought nothing of hitting her and she knows i can handle myself, but i feel powerless now. please all adive given on what to do, and moving is not an option as i have no money at the moment, id love to but cant. thanks!

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (18 December 2009):

eyeswideopen agony auntI guess the reason nobody has answered your question is because there isn't really a good one to give. Other than to ignore your relatives that are acting like idiots, there's nothing to do. You've done nothing wrong so at least you can hold your head high and go about your business as best you can. Once the dust settles maybe things will ease up for you. Good luck and keep us posted.

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