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writes:Me and my brother were neglected by our parents and we were taken into care. We spent 6 years in various care homes, until 3 months ago when 1 family took me in. So I now live with themMy new family have always wanted a daughter having had 5 sons and so they look after me really well. They are paying for me to go to a really good school and I live in a nice house with all the things I've ever wanted but I feel really guilty I have all these things but my younger brother is still in a group home. I feel really bad about this as I have all this and he lives in a horrible home. The only thing that kept us going in the home was that we had each other so what does he have now. I'm going to have so many more opportunities (eg in the summer we're travelling round Europe)than him and this really upsets me. I still see him and when I tell him about my new family and new life he is really happy for me but I still feel bad and kind of like I've abandoned him. He's 12 and I'm 14 Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): I kind of did the same thing, I had to leave my younger sister behind. I am now 28 and I regret it every second of my life. :'-(
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): The best thing you can do is visit him as often as you can, and ask your new family if he can visit you (suck up to them if you have to). If they know how close you are they shouldn't mind, though. Talk to them about how you are feeling.
I'm not sure what state your from, or what regulations they have, but I'm pretty sure if you both have a good record and talk to the case worker about it, it shouldn't be a problem.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 Your question made me cry, and not much does these days.
I don't know what the rules of foster care etc are in the States, so I cannot give you any good, solid advise.
Continue to see him as much as you can, stay in touch with your case worker, let her/him know how you feel, stay safe, good luck, I hope somebody with more knowledge can give you some practical advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): That is a very harsh reality and I can't begin to understand the kind of pain that must entail. I'm sure your brother is very happy for you...you just have to realize that it is not your fault.
It's not the end for your brother. He may find a loving family just as you have and you can still see him, so keep doing that...keep doing what you can.
If your brother is a good boy maybe u can talk to your new family about adopting him? Or maybe ask your new parents to help find him a family. Either way I'm just saying...its not your fault and things can be changed in time. Have some hope.
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