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How do I stop being his drunken hook up?

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Question - (28 February 2012) 5 Answers - (Newest, 1 March 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I have been seeing a guy but he only ever asks me to meet at the weekends when he has been drinking. I like him so much and I always say to myself I won't meet him again but this is the third time now I have met him. Nothing ever happens, just a kiss and a cuddle. I feel so disrespectful to myself and I hate myself. I just like him so much but would rather never meet him again than meet him as some drunken fling as I feel my feelings are getting stronger towards him. What can I do?

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A female reader, jayyy111 Canada +, writes (1 March 2012):

ive been in this situation for a long time.. its a slippery slope and depending on the guy and situation could be never ending. The guy ive been exclusivly fwb with for a year now only shows any real emotion when hes drunk.. and trust me its no way to live. Ask him on a date or to hangout with you sober.. if he says no then tell him not to call you drunk. He will either than miss you and see it your way and hangout with you sober.. or you will move on and find someone you deserve!

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (28 February 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntIn order to get him to do what YOU want (which he may NOT even if you do this) you have to stop seeing him when he's drunk.

JUST SAY NO

if he ONLY contacts you when drunk he may not be interested when he's sober. it's a risk you take but do you really just want to be his drunken hook up girl?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (28 February 2012):

Honeypie agony auntNext time he calls/texts drunk - tell him to give you a call when sober if he still want to see you.

If he doesn't call, you know that he isn't interested and if he does, well then you go from there.

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A female reader, Paul_2012 United Kingdom +, writes (28 February 2012):

Paul_2012 agony auntExaclty, you have done this for so long, he expects you to meet him now when he is drunk all the time.

to be honest,

if you stop meeting him when he is drunk, then you will really know if these feelings are mutal with him. if they are, he will miss you and contact you - if not, then believe me, you deserve better than to be someones booty call.

no girl should be treated like this, so put your foot down now.

Paul x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2012):

Stop seeing him when he's drunk, simple.

Maybe you should contact HIM just once,in the week when he's sober, ask him to meet you, go for a coffee,see a film maybe, see what his reaction is.Then you will have your answer as to how he sees you.

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