| A
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: This isn't a relationship questionbut i want to know how to i bnecome tougher and stop taking things so personally?like today at work someone said something really horrible to me and i walked off and there were tears burning in my eyes and i was fighting with myself to stop them riding up.some people can take way more shitlike when out boss is bollocking us, some of the others can be totally un affected by it but i get really upset.how do i show my emotions less and toughen up?
View related questions:
at work Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): The reason why some people can "take more shit" is because they eiter don't care what others say or just can hide it very well. Yes, it's true to show emotion makes you look more human, but some people (like assholes) constantly verbally abuse someone because the other person reacts to it.
A thing that has helped me a lot is that I try to think of what those people mean to me. A boss or a random person will not care what happens to you, so whatever mean thing he tells you, just try not to care. Try to consantly think about yourself and not about what they say about you. Assure yourself that you're a great, capable person. This will only lessen the pain, but it will help you in these situations
If the person that you fight with actually cares about you, DO show emotion. This person actually cares about what you want and what you feel, and after the person has calmed down or came to its senses, they will try to see how to make things better. Again, show emotion, because if you don't the other person will think you don't care about them at all.
A
female
reader, LISAXXXG  +, writes (26 June 2008):
 hun your only human i think its a good thing you show your emotions,you should walk away from situtions as someimes this makes u the stronger person the people who seem unaffected prob go home and cry too belive me it dosent make u bad person next time some one says any thing take a deep breath smile and walk away you will seem like the stronger person xx
...............................
|
