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writes:How do I please a man? How and where do they like to be touched? I know this varies man by man but suggestions would be helpful. I have asked my man and all he says is "just try something". Reply to this Question
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (15 July 2008):
 In my opinion, "natasia' nailed the answer. But "eyeswideopen" and "cupidguy" added some interesting thoughts here. I particularly enjoyed the query, "Where have you been the past 41-50 years?" by "eyeswideopen."All you have to do with a man is gingerly stroke, caress, fondle and (if inclined) suck his member to get attention. Hopefully, you have a man who will do similar things for you - such as oral satisfaction - then you both will likely sleep happily throughout the night. Best wishes.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 It sounds like you're new to this, or perhaps new to the feeling of wanting to please a man in bed, rather than just letting him get on with whatever he does.
OK. Where do you think they like to be touched? It's pretty obvious ; ) Yes, you're right - that is their favourite place to be touched. But I'd suggest two things for you, so you take this gently and just ease yourself into it:
1) Try stroking your man all over - not just there. Get to know his body. Everywhere - his face, his eyebrows, his ears, his neck, his shoulders, his chest, his stomach, his hips, his thighs, his knees, his calves, his ankles, his feet, his toes, the soles of his feet ... his biceps, his elbows, his wrists, his fingers ... all of him. Go on a journey. Explore him. And he can just lie there and enjoy it. And just stroke gently at first - go with your feelings. You have all the time in the world. And it isn't a competition: you just need to relax and feel a connection with his body. Think what it feels like for him. Imagine you are feeling it too.
2) As well as doing (1) every night, you can also start to focus on his most favourite area! Start by doing (1), and deliberately don't touch him there. I can guarantee he will be wondering why you've missed it out, and when you're going to get there!! So, finally, get there. It's really very simple. You just do what you feel like doing. Take hold of him in your hand or hands. Move the skin of his penis up and down (it is designed to do that!). Squeeze it. (You can squeeze it as softly or as hard as you like - it's very resilient like that!) Stroke it. Move it around (it goes in all sorts of directions!). Kiss it. Kiss the tip, the sides, up and down. Start with little tiny kisses. Try licking it. Put the tip in your mouth. As you get happier with this, and grow to love It more, you can take it deeper in your mouth. Any kind of moving up and down is usually very well received - using your hand, or your mouth. Anything, basically, that mimicks what he does when he's inside you.
I think that will do for now. I'm not giving specific tips like 'nibble his earlobes' as I think you need to find out what you like doing, and see how he responds. You will know if he really likes something, because his body will react. Listen to his body, and yours, and think of him like a land to explore. You don't jump in and stomp around, do you? You go gently and wonderingly and see what's round the next corner, and try to remember your way back to the boat ; )
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 July 2008):
 Where have you been the last 41-50 years? Or are you really a 13-15 year old looking for trouble? On the off chance that you really are as old as you say, just try something like your man suggests.
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