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writes: I've always felt insecure about my looks (never been considered pretty or hot). My BF thinks I'm hot. However, he's also said that there are hot chicks everywhere. Now I'm more insecure. He gets mad if I go on about feeling insecure. He said hot chicks are everywehere and some may be hotter than me, but they don't have my personality. This didn't make me feel any better, I still want to be hot. How can I stop feeling insecure about these hotter chicks?
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reader, ariel  + ♥, writes (6 April 2008):
 This is a serious problem, if not sorted could compromise every relationship you have. You need to take control of your thoughts regarding beautiful people .Is it possible that you are with the wrong bloke? Does he blatantly drool over ‘hot chicks’? If so then he is not worth your time of day. If this is a fear, then maybe you need to go solo for a while and sort out your insecurities with your looks and the thought of being abandoned. In reality there are beautiful people, who will make you feel insipid but appreciate there luck not hate them. If you love yourself then this issue would not be one. Good luck, I hope you find your solution because life shouldn’t be filled with fear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): I'm the OP.
It's just I don't want him to be aroused by girls he sees on the street or at parties and that he wished that I looked like them or something. It's just I was always treated as an ugly girl so I have always disliked stupid hot girls who most of the time have been airheads or mean but boys always went for them no matter what, so I don't buy the personality thing. Some of them were real dull b*tches who were hot and boys went for them instead of me, when I was much sweeter, caring, etc...
thanks anyway.
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reader, ariel + ♥, writes (5 April 2008):
Easy you need to believe in yourself. What’s so fabulous about people is that we are all different and have quirks and things we do that nobody else does because we are unique. There are always hotter chicks everywhere BUT they are not you. Beauty is superficial, it is like the cover of a magazine, a chocolate wrapper, it’s what gets you noticed. It’s just your outer shell. It’s all well being hot, but if your personality sucks, what good it that? Your boyfriend is right. It is his choice to love you, he is doing it because he wants to. And your fears are preventing you enjoying the precious moments you have with your boyfriend. Learn to love yourself, I read a book once where Dr Linda Papadopoulos said something along these lines people don’t see you the way you see yourself. When you get compliments from anyone, believe what they say. Look in the mirror and say, “ yeah it does look beautiful” I am hot. Forget about other hot chicks and concentrate on the moments together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): Your boyfriend wants YOU! Not anyone else!
Everyone sees other people differently. So though you might not see yourself as hot - other people will!
Don't worry about it. Learn to love yourself for who you are and when you grow in confidence that confidence will make you even more beautiful! x x x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 April 2008):
 You had your hot moments and now it is others turn.
Today's hot chicks , tomorrow everything will droop.
Hey! You man is not an immortal and hot chicks will give him a miss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): You can't change so come to terms with who you are. If your boyfriend is going to leave you then he will leave you, you can't stop that. Also you can never be the hottest girl, there will always be someone hotter, same applies for your boyfriend, there will always be someone hotter than him. What i'm getting at is its never ending.
Do the best you can and leave the rest to Fate, thats all you can do. Worrying never changed anything. Try taking up meditation its great for clearing the head of such nagging thoughts.
Good luck
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reader, BeatIt +, writes (5 April 2008):
Every "Hot" Chick will have something wrong with them.
Nobody's perfect.
And obviously, your boyfriend wants you more that any of these "hot chicks."
And if some of these "Hot chicks" are models, their pictures are always edited, as my auntie is a model, but due to sun damage, she has many freckles.
And some points of her body are edited before shooting.
Example push-up bra's etc.
Like the teen disney, hannah montana song, Nobody's perfect.
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