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writes:Today my girlfriend broke up with me after 2 and 1/2 years, she had some issues about a month ago but she said that we had sorted them out. I went to see her today and she said we should break up, I dont know what to do it was out of nowhere. I want her back. I was with her for almost 2 and 1/2 years I feel so numb inside. What can I do?
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (13 November 2007):
 Hi. I really feel for you, my friend. Breaking up after a significant length of time like that is by no means easy.
I advise you to do as Flower girl suggested (she has advised me through my difficult times over the past 4 months or so), surround yourself with friends and do the things you enjoy doing. It's not going to fix things right away, but it will certainly help you adjust to going from being taken to being single.
As far as getting back with her goes, I suppose it must depend on what caused her to break up in the first place. If those reasonss remain, then getting back together is a waste of time. It's sad but true, take it from me.
Personally (having gone through something similar recently) I would suggest taking some time away from her. Offer yourself time to heal. I understand that you won't feel like walking away from her and accepting things are over, because at that stage, all you want to do is go back to how things were.
Give it some time. These are very early days. See where you two go from here.
Best of luck, and if you wanna message me, you know where I am.
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reader, adamski1968 +, writes (13 November 2007):
I feel for you, as I have recently gone through the same thing. The only way I could deal with it was to get 'closure' on the relationship. By that I mean realising it is over. Try to take the positive things from your time together. I wrote my ex a letter explaining all the good things we had done in our time together, it really helped me to come to terms with it by writing it down on paper. It also shows a sensitivity, especially in the text and email world we live in today. I know she still has the letter. We have managed to remain friends.
Ultimately it will take time to get over it. I found physical exercise a good release.
Hope this helps.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (13 November 2007):
 You have to just take each day as it comes, you are going to feel numb you have been together a long time, so it's not like you are going to wake up tomorrow and have forgotten about her.
My best advice to you at this time would be to surround yourself with plenty of friends and family and keep busy the more time you spend on your own, the more time you have to try and analise things and work out what went wrong, and sometimes those answers are just not out there for you.
Take care.xx.
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (13 November 2007):
 hey,
do you feel that you guys will be back? and if you do come back do you think that you have a futur together? do you love her and think she is worth living for?
if you do, then wait for her!
but if you don't well you have to move on!maybe the breakupup must be a wake up call.or maybe she wants to do something that you can't allow ect......
you have to talk to her! maybe it is hard but you have to do it , because after that talk only you can determin what to do next! YOU!
good luck byeXXX
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