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writes:ok heres the thing, im in a bit of a situation thats making me really upset but i dont know what to do,im 17 and ive been going out with a girl whos 16 for a bit over a year, and we havent had sex. and also we barely do anything physical at all, it took me a long time just to kiss her. now the weird thing is i was totally cool to take it this slow because i love the girl to peices, but recently it feels as tho were moving further apart, falling back on ground that took me soo long to get too.now this is actually driving me nuts and id love some advice or tactics or even to talk to someone with a similar problem so i dont feel like a total outcast (lol comin in with the emo ploy)thanks alot Reply to this Question
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reader, Oceania  +, writes (26 July 2008):
 oh okay i'm sorry.
so she's shy.
hummm... well you'll have to take the lead,
still i'll support my advise:
talk to her or just make her feel comfortable when you get physical.
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reader, derg +, writes (26 July 2008):
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sorry i worded this wrong "it took HER months to kiss ME" trust me i dont think i have physicality issues.
thanks again
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reader, Oceania +, writes (26 July 2008):
just be confident. Maybe she's thinking that everythings getting too slow too. So you got 2 options
- talk to her, see what's going on, try to solve it the old fashioned way... through communication.
or
- Just wait for the moment, and get more physical. I am not telling you to have sex right away, I just want you to feel more comfortable with her in the intimacy, because right now i guess thats your problem. So dont be shy! try to get over your fears, you can do it. Probably she loves you as much as you do. So start enyoing your relationship a little bit more, if you know what i mean ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2008): This is probably not the answer you were hoping for, but I cannot suggest any quick way or method to assist you with your problem;
HOWEVER
I suggest you have to talk to your girlfriend; COMMUNICATION is very important in any relationship;
I suggest you discuss with her about how you are feeling; ask her about her feelings; tell her that you are concerned that you two might be drifting apart;
Honest and open coummunication might help to bring you closer and to strengthen the bond between the two of you.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES
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