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writes:ive recently started to date my ex again. i first went out with him 4 years ago for 6 months. i fell in love with him but he hurt me bad by finishing wiv me for someone else. He started going out with this girl and they moved in together. It took me ages to get over it. I was so hung up over him I would of done anything to have him back. I started seeing other men but Ive never felt the way I felt about him. But I did get over it in the end. Anyway, he split with his ex earlier this year and we bumped into each other a couple of months ago. Now we are properly dating again and sleeping together. We are getting on really well, better than first time round, and I am happy. All the old feelings I had for him have come back. And I know he really likes me too. But theres a voice in my head telling me not to do this as he hurt me bad in the past. I also feel a bit disappointed in myself because it took me months to get over it and then when Ive finally gotten over it I go back to him!!I keep thinking all those months of hurt were for nothing. But then on the other hand I think that he made a mistake, he realises it as well. We were both younger then too. And plus, having him back with me was all I ever wanted so I should just relax and enjoy being with him again. Im torn between my own consciousness and I dont know what to do!!!
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reader, junebug  +, writes (26 July 2008):
hey hun after 2 years my boyfriend told me he wanted to break up we was living 2gether and everything well he wanted to date another girl. I was depressed i couldnt get over it and then we ened up back 2gether and i couldnt trust him and i was always questioning him if he came home a lil late from work and its just awful! Well 3 years later we are still 2gether living 2gether and he just had doubts he just wanted 2 make sure i was the 1 and we ended up 2gether but it still hurts and he told me over and over its never gonna happen but it did he ended up talkin 2 other girls but i loved him 2 much 2 walk away.well anyways he stayed with me and things are workin out the best they ever have. I told him if he loved me he would prove it and not just tell me he wasnt gonna have doubts again.now i can trust him he has proven it to me and now we plan on getting married. Yeah watch out but love makes you do dumb things but hopefully it works out for u 2! Best of luck!
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reader, Oceania  +, writes (26 July 2008):
 Enjoy your relationship, if it makes you happy, then dont worry. Be happy you know the song ;) haha jkwell the thing is... maybe eventually you will break up or you wont get married or maybe you do. you NEVER know, so why worry about the future? when you should be enjoying the present, you are now older and more mature. He realized the mistake he made. I see no problem.However if things go bad and you get hurt, well just remember life is like that, YOU WILL get hurt, but that's just another lesson learned, that will make you stronger and wiser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2008): Exactly the same thing happened to me- maybe this isn't the case for you, but I was frustrated with myself, I felt like I lost respect from friends, and was paranoid about it happening again. Don't let it get to you, because the relationship will never have a chance of working if you're worrying and upset all the time. There's no need to rush into making a decision, but be on your guard and be weary of signs- try and keep an objective mind about things. What would you say to your best friend? It also might be an idea to have a chat because he clearly hasn't reassured you enough if you're still worried about being second best. You deserve someone who thinks you're better than the best. If in time you're still not convinced, maybe move on.
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