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How do I know when its safe to have sex with hpv?

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Question - (24 July 2013) 4 Answers - (Newest, 24 July 2013)
A male United States age , anonymous writes:

How do I go about having sex with another women, I have found out I caught hpv from a women little over a year ago, amild case of it. But they say condoms don't help, you can get it from oral sex, they say it goes dorment any where from six months to two years , but their is no test a man can take. I do not want to give it to another women, I have already given it to a good women, the women who gave it to me, broke my heart when she went back to the guy who beat her all the time, so how can I no when its safe .

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (24 July 2013):

Honeypie agony auntI suggest you talk to your doctor. I assumed the reason you know you have/had HVP is because you had the little warts or a breakout?

Talk to your doctor and definitely TALK to a potential date.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (24 July 2013):

So_Very_Confused agony auntAlmost all women in our age range have or have had HPV.

I have had SEVERAL pap smears show up over the years with "cells consistent with HPV" I have had two LEEP procedures for it. Now I test normal.

I asked the GYN about it and he told me "you probably have had HPV but your body cleared it..." seems that is a standard thing to happen for HPV.

Personally for me as an educated woman having sex with a man who tests positive for HPV would not be an issue since I've been there done that and I know it's not a death sentence or even that much of a problem with regular pap smears.

how do you know you caught HPV... what test do they give a man? can you be retested to see if it's cleared?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2013):

To begin with it must have taken a lot of courage to even think about writing your post, so I applaud you. Let me tell you a little bit about me, I am a RMN ( registered mental health nurse British ) who did 5 years general my knowledge is diverse but I always suggest the best policy is to go to your doctor .

From my knowledge, you can reduce your risk of transmitting HPV to a sexual partner by abstaining from sex, this I know will be extremely difficult, maybe you will have to discover other ways to express intimacy, placing plasters over warts thus ot avoiding contact with any wart, ( abstinence) and by using condoms correctly and consistently every time you have sexual intercourse will minimise infection

There is a HPV vaccine that is normally only given to males around 9 to 26 years of age, but it may be worth your while to ask if you too could still be consider due to the effect this bares upon your life .

Like all safer sex methods (with the exception of abstinence) using condoms are not 100% safe -- genital warts that are not covered by a condom will still transmit the virus, but condoms are still a crucial step to minimize risk for people who continue to be sexually active.

Being diagnosed with HPV does not mean that you can't ever have sex ever again! However, It is important to communicate with your partner(s) and give them information that you are infected with HPV, so that they can make informed decisions about their sexual activity with you. Okey Telling a partner that you have HPV, or any other type of STI, can be a difficult and challenging experience, if not damn well scary .

Some partners may react by needing some time to think about how this impacts and affects your relationship. Some partners may have a lot of questions, might feel they need to get tested themselves, and might make the decision not to have sex for a while or ever with you.

this is completely normal . it is also normal for you to feel frustrated, depressed, angry, or guilty about having HPV

The majority of people diagnosed with an STI have the same concerns. But by taking care of your health, practicing safer sex, and informing yourself and your partners, you are taking all the necessary steps to minimize the risk of recurrences and transmitting the virus to others. You are also showing that you take and accept that this is how you now are. And that is a big step .

You cannot change what has happened, you can only move forward and adapt and become a much stronger person from this . I think you are very brave and courageous to open up to strangers about a very delicate life challenging scary situation ..

My conclusion here is:-

You very much need advice and support so first port of call is to your local doctor.. Your honesty and openness will help you get the support and advice and please ask about the vaccination ..

Take care we are wishing you well .. X

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2013):

It's so common, most ladies may already have and there are no symptoms in men. Try reading this, it's very helpful.

http://www.macmillan.org.uk/Cancerinformation/Causesriskfactors/Causes/Viruses/HPVandcancer.aspx

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