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writes:two months ago i split up with my boyfriend of two years, i thought it was the right thing to do as we had started arguing about nothing and i was going to uni quite far away, we still talk often and agree to stay close friends.i was fine until recently, and now i cant stop crying over him, and i dont know why, and doubting myself, its like i forgot why i vroke up with him. were both with other people, but theres still a lot of emotion between us. how do i know if im over him and did the right thing?
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reader, QZ  +, writes (29 June 2010):
 I agree with everything that's been said here! Arguing is normal for couples, and even though they're difficult you have to work through them via communication, communication, communication. By getting upset over him you're realizing you really weren't quite ready to end the relationship, and chances are he feels the same way. You need to talk to him and be willing to work on whatever problems you have. If you're both willing to dedicate time to each other, I'm sure you'll work things out. (:
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (28 June 2010):
 Arguing isn't always a decent reason to break up. Usually, it just means there's a bigger problem that needs to be discussed, in order to break up all the tiny, stupid fights.
The underlying problem might be something like poor communication, or one person in the relationship nitpicks. I think most of it comes when the couple forgets that they have to pick their battles. Just let things go sometimes, because they're not terribly important and you'll be over them shortly.
Anyway, I don't know what was causing the arguing, but you may have actually not done the right thing by breaking up with him. You might want to have a deeeeep talk with him to figure out what was really going on in your relationship that you both didn't realize was there.
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