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writes:Hi I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now, he is a very wonderful guy, he treats me very good and I think we have something very special here. We have a very open relationship we can talk about past sex experiences without having any conficts in ours. Our sex life is very good. Too good! But sometimes I hold back on asking him if im pleasing him enough??? He seems to be very experienced in sex, And i dont seem to be experienced enough! He has made me comfortable enough to use toys and gels and get really kinky, and that is something that i have discovered i enjoy very much, because i have never done it before ever!!!. Not even in my past marraige! I have had sex partners before but never really enjoyed it because I feel that they werent experienced enough, I never really reached an orgasm, it was more like wam bam thank you mam! or I just didnt feel much for them. Until now, Its great!!! I just need a mans point of view on this, what do men think of women that are unexperienced. And how would I know If i am doing the job or not (with out asking him?) What do men feel when they have taught a woman how to ride or are in the process of teaching???? I am very curious....
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (23 October 2007):
 I think in relationships it is very rare to have a couple with an equal amount of sexual experience, invariably one is always more experienced than the other. It not a bad thing by any means, infact i think its quite the norm. Personally it would not bother me how experienced a woman was, if shes really inexperienced it gives the guy a chance to take lead. Don't worry about it, you both sound really good together, and you have both got something very special going here, so relax and enjoy many happy years of love making together.
Take care x
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reader, honeyross +, writes (23 October 2007):
 I think it depends on the person, but usually men and women enjoy the thrill of teaching their partners new things. Many people also like their lovers to introduce new ideas too. This can be done gradually to see how they'll react to the new technique/position.
Often people seem experienced just because they are less inhibited and know what they like. By bringing small surprises into foreplay or oral sex you can get a feel for how much he likes it by listening to his groans of pleasure. There are some good books and DVDs which can fuel your imagination.
A lot of women worry that by being adventurous they'll appear as if they're too 'slutty'; but most men, I think, are only too happy to see their partners enjoying sex as much as they do.
All the best!
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reader, jtaunton5410 +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Okay so I am not a man but a am a woman who has a man of one year with a very high sex drive. My boyfriend and I have also had past sexual partners and we have talked about that before, without it being weird to talk about.
When you two are having sex does he climax? I mean you sound like a pretty understanding girlfriend if you are willing to do kinky stuff for him. In my opinion I think that you would be pleasing him very much.
If you kinda want to see what he says about you doing something for him, try doing what I do. Whenever I go down on my guy or after we have sex I will always cuddle up in his arms and kinda seductively say "So how was that"? My guy always responds with a really positive remark like "Oh My God! Freakin' amazing". So there are ways of finding out how he is feeling without actually having to ask.
I think that if you have been experimenting with him and doing things that he likes, well why wouldnt he like that? My BF is still trying to talk me into going down on him while he watches porn. I'm gettin' there but at least your guy doesnt have to wait for you to be okay with it.....cause it seems to me that you already are. Good luck in your relationship.
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