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female
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30-35,
*elhel
writes:I am even more confused now then when i first posted a question like this.Ok, heres a brief introduction to my stituation. I really like this 17 year old who also really likes me. We talk all the time on msn and i see him 5 days a week which is brilliant, if i dont see him or talk to him for just one day i feel lost. Which seems a bit obsessive but i dont care what people think about it.Same problem which is pretty obvious is that he has a gf. He has made it clear to me that he loves her. and is extreemly sorry that it cant be something more. Its really bad, but we sort of arranged that next thursday we meet up and we would kiss sum time that night. However we talked it out and I told him i didnt want to feel guilty and regret it. He told me he would feel guilty but not regret it, so through mutual decision it wont happen. He said to me he wouldnt initiate it but if i kissed him, he would kiss me bk. I dnt know whether we are still meeting though but i doupt i will because of the situation. The other day i told him that i was very confused. He sed he was to. I have 'believed' that i was in love before with another bf, but the feelings for him are completely different and i cant explain it. He told me to tell him when i want if i felt something more. I said no because it would complicate things further, which is really bad. He just says he wants to know even though it will confuse things even more.QuestionsWhy does he want to know if i love him???Is there any chance of me getting over him when i have to see him 5 days a week (college)??What do i do about this situation??How do i know for sure if i love him??And what will i do when i go camping with him?? (4 of us are doing the duke of edinburgh award and have to work together)Help me pleases. I know this is kina long but thnx for reading.XxX
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): Hello
That is a dilema.
My question is, how can the guy be in love with his girlfriend, if he would be willing to kiss you, and likes you more than a friend? And, if he does like you, wouldn't he want to break up with his girlfriend for you?
I personally wouldn't try anything on with him, especially while at D of E because it may get back to the girlfriend, and then there would be huge trouble, and she would get upset.
Also, it may be a hard truth, but imagine being in the girlfriends position. Can you think how awful it would be to find out that your boyfriend, who says he loves you, is so close to this other girl and spends so much time with her, and would happily be kissed by her, even though he's in a relationship with you? Maybe this guy is trying to have the best of both worlds? a girlfriend and someone else.
This guy isn't totally happy with his girlfriend otherwise he wouldn't be like that with you. But if he's not happy enough, wouldn't he break up with her. Especially as he knows that you like him?
Just a few things to think about...
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reader, peaches83 +, writes (8 December 2007):
 Its a hard one.
He says he loves his girfriend however is willing to kis you and not regret it. You cannot say whether it is love or not really.
Yes you will get over him if you choose to walk away. Although it will take time.
Think to yourself if its what you really want. Has he said that there is no chance of you two been together? You need to ask him that. If then you find out that there isnt going to be a chance then walk away for good, if there is a chance then you need to decide that for yourself.
The camping trip, I personally would go.
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