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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I broke up with my ex 8 months ago after being together 5 years. We were agreed to move in, save for a house, and discuss wedding and kids. HE initiated all of this, and I agreed to it. Over a year ago he was involved in a serious accident that left him jobless but he was not injured. We cancelled our plans, and he had a mental break down, I guess, because he did absolutely nothing for 8 months (no job, dropped out of school, etc).I was hurt that he didn't fight to succeed, while I was working my arse off working two jobs, going to school full time, and being forced into a "mother" position for him.I finally told him I needed a break because neither of us was being an effective partner. I suggested things we could do to be better partners and he agreed, but then told me he loved me very much and knew I was worth fighting for, but he didn't feel that he was worth fighting for and moved to another part of Europe to "fix his life." We've not spoken since then, and I am heartbroken. I was (and still am) very much in love with him. I know he needed time to regroup. He's not blocked me on the social networking sites, and has me in top friends, but he won't talk to me. It hurts that I feel as though I'm the only one who wanted to salvage the relationship. How do I handle this? Is he moving on or is there a way I can win him back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): Just to clarify, I've already contemplated it all. Things weren't bad until he had the accident, and neither of us was as supportive as we should have been (I had some major stuff going on in my own life).
I just want to know why he said what he said, and then up and left. Does he really not care for me? He was the one who asked for marriage, etc. Are there any guys out there who can help me with this?
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