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How do I handle her cheating?

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Question - (5 January 2018) 5 Answers - (Newest, 9 January 2018)
A male Mauritius age , anonymous writes:

after marriage my wife got pregnant third time. she aborted because she did not want three children. but i wanted. i have doubts about this abortion at that time and i was doubting some one in our family.

2. one day my wife had two red marks on each thighs which i can say were made my a male mouth.

3. another day i caught my wife redhanded with the person i always doubted. they were planning a rendezvous. wife nevers accepts this

what must i do?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2018):

Aunts and uncles, I don't think we should question her motives for an abortion, as she shouldn't have kept a baby just because OP wanted one or that she was married. It could have been because she was cheating, but plenty of married women have an abortion and plenty of women have an abortion because they don't want a/another baby and shouldn't carry to term just because the other person wants it.

OP, if you don't trust her, then maybe you need to leave her and split custody of your children.

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A male reader, Billy Bathgate United States + , writes (6 January 2018):

Your wife is cheating. She probably got pregnant by the person she was cheating with so she aborted that child. You have caugther cheating and she has lied to you about it. So you have two choices: Divorce her or learn to live life as a cuckold. I don’t believe counseling will do you any good because she refuses to admit the truth.

Oh and you may want to have your kids paternity tested.

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (6 January 2018):

YouWish agony auntI'll say this:

I think you might be right.

The only time I have ever heard of a wife aborting an additional child within a marriage is if she were cheating, and the person she was cheating WITH looks quite different than her husband, as in a white couple having a black child, or something like that. I'm guessing that she did the math and suspected that the baby's father might have been in question.

You have definitive proof with #3. Time to pull the plug.

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (6 January 2018):

If you are absolutely certain your wife is cheating; can you remain married to her?

You have two children. What kind of mother is busy cheating with two children to attend to?

Why do you need other people to tell you what to do about your marriage? Your wife aborted a child against your wishes, you're finding bruises on her thighs, and you caught her plotting a rendezvous with a man.

Get a lawyer, fight for full-custody of your kids, and get a divorce.

If you want to keep her, get marriage-counseling; which won't stop her from cheating. Maybe it will give you peace of mind knowing that you tried to save your marriage. Then get a divorce.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom + , writes (5 January 2018):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntMarriage counselling or divorce, I suppose. If she is cheating and you caught her kissing him or something (not just talking), then she has to want to stop the affair or your marriage won't last.

I'm sorry, OP. I'd like to check how you know, though. Did you SEE her cheating on you?

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