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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I met in early June of this year (making it aprox. 6 months since we got together) We actually met through a mutual friend whom he once was associated with... After 3 weeks into our relationship, he suggested we should go on a break, I was deeply hurt and rashly ENDED it. I text him the following day, on my way to a music festival to which I got a reply telling me where to go... I was hurt and upset and that weekend I kissed an old friend. My then ex boyfriend was extremally hurt. I was still mad about him and he told me he loved me. We sorted things out somehow. We wernt officially going out again till about a month ago which we were on the verge of breaking up and I was about to leave, he asked me out and so now we're in a relationship. He gets extremally jealous, openly doesnt trust me in the slightest and thinks I do nothing in our relationship.The only thing keeping us together to be honest is our utter love for eachother. But lately... in the past 2 weeks or so... I just feel as though the love has gone for him. He doesnt look at me the way he used to and Ive tried talking to him about it but it doesnt work. He says Im being paranoid. There is extreme double standards in the relationship and I often feel lost. He also has a problem with my friends and visa versa. His friends still call me 'the slut' after hearing I kissed someone at the festival. He is moving back to America in 2 months, I dont know what to do. Should I end it now? What do I do... I wish he could trust me... how do I respark our relationship?PLEASE HELP!
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (5 November 2007):
 I'm sorry , but why do you love this guy?
You need to ask yourself this question, as at your age you show worrying signs of being attracted to controlling personalities.
He's an arsehoole who is treating you like dirt and calling you names _ so ask yourself again "why do i love him?"
There is such a thing as having a relationship where both boy and girl treat each other with respect.
Try it ,you might actually like it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): Well, you are so young and there are so many good men out there... Though they are hard to find and it is hard to realize that when you are in a current situation with someone else. You say this guy is moving in a couple months. Were you planning on a long distance relationship? They usually don't work out. If you were not planning on one, then it may be best to end it now... Especially if he is treating you this way. He should have trust in you and he should not be so jealous. After all, he is the one who wanted to take a break. He should have understood that you are not cheating if you hook up with someone else and that taking a break is a risk of this. He has not right to be angry and lose trust because of this.... Honestly, he sounds like a loser. You can do better... and you've got the time to find someone better. Good luck
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reader, Chatterbox +, writes (5 November 2007):
 If you doubt this relationship so much why are you holding on when you know yourself that there is so much better out there. You know it isnt going to last, sometimes is hurts to face the truth but you dont deserve that, no one does and i know that there is someone else out there that will make you feel like you can take on the world. Trust me darl itll work out. Stand up for yourself.Take care and good luck
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