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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am at university and in my final year. I have recently got a new boyfriend and he wants to see me all the time. How do i get him to chill out a bit but also not make him want to leave me as i really like him?
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reader, cd206 +, writes (26 January 2007):
 He has to understand how important your finals are for your future. Make sure you speak to him every day but have set days when you can see him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2007): Send him an email every day. And handwrite him a letter once a week as well as give him a couple of photos to hang onto. One for his wallet and one for his nightstand.
Tell him when he feels lonely (this is the real issue and he has fears of rejection and abandonment which relate to his childhood home or possibly an disorder-they tend to go hand in hand) to look at the photo or read over the emails and letters.
Make it a point to call him twice a week so he can hear your voice.
When can you schedule in having him visit you or you him? Make this commitment and KEEP it.
This will comfort and reassure him as it clearly sounds like this is a fear of abandonment which has him acting clingy.
I'll try post you something later about why he may feel what he does.
Hope this helps.
Best Wishes.
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