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writes:hi im 34 and met this girl last summer...well she grew up in my hometown so i guess i always knew of her just didnt talk before and last summer she got one of my friends to ask me out so i gave it a try and we dated for 5 and a half months.everything was great to me i love her to death and her 2 kids too and a week after new years she breaks up with me.i want her back i told her that i wanted to spend the rest of my life with her after we broke up and i know she just got out of a 10 year marriage.i know that she loved me and i still think she does.the whole time we were together we didnt fight until that last week new years eve when we were out to a bar and she was ingoring me the whole time so i got a bit down and she saw that and texted me that she was going home alone cause she was feeling smothered so i got mad and showed the text to a friend and she saw it.so that was the only fight we really had and a day later we were back together and i told her i'd give her her space and a few days later she breaks up with me.i dont know what to do i want her back so bad.i told her how i feel about her that i wanted to spend the rest of my life with her and she meant the world to me so i dont know how to get her back.please i need some advise on how to get her back.she is my world...help!!!
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (16 February 2011):
 She said you might lose her as a friend. In reality thats all you are to her a friend. I say move on because it will be painful keeping her close.
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reader, heartbrokennewfie +, writes (7 February 2011):
heartbrokennewfie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey a few days ago i saw her with her ex boyfriend from high school and that really hurt so i decided to block her on my facebook and a little while after i did this she texted me and said u blocked me again on facebook lol i love how mature u r and i told her that in order for me to move on i need to delete u from my life because u have moved on and i told her dont take it personal i need to do this for me because i cant do this anymore. she said im not taking it personal just know that u might lose me as a friend in the process and i wish u happiness and i said i wish u happiness to but u have to look at it from my side i still love u and in order for me to heal i need to do this and she didnt respond to that so did i do the right thing? and does it sound like she still loves me?
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reader, Adorskable +, writes (3 February 2011):
Sorry to hear that but if all week all you do is sit and wait fot the weekend to come so you can go and get drunk and hang out with her than I feel your wasting a lot of good time. You are shutting your eyes to the possiblity of finding happiness. You will be stuck in the past hoping she takes you back.
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reader, heartbrokennewfie +, writes (3 February 2011):
heartbrokennewfie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell i live in a small town of only about 1000 people and its hard to mingle amd theres not much to do.so all i do is just sit and wait for the weekend to come to get drunk.im going over on friday to see the kids which i cant wait to see!!!!
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reader, Adorskable +, writes (2 February 2011):
That is all you can do give her time and space. In the mean time try to meet new people, mingle with other people don't just sit and wait.
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reader, heartbrokennewfie +, writes (2 February 2011):
heartbrokennewfie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYea, I told her I would give her time and space to get her life together and I'm here if she needs anything.
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reader, Adorskable +, writes (1 February 2011):
Respect her decision of being just friend. If this is to hard for you to handle maybe as hard as its sounds you should let it be and give her her space and freedom. You can't force her into being with you.
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reader, heartbrokennewfie +, writes (31 January 2011):
heartbrokennewfie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe told me for now we can b just friends but anything else she not sure of yet.i know we rushed into it too fast and i just want it to go back to when we just started going out.im going over to her place sometime this week to hangout with her kids and i would like to know should i send her flowers on valentines day is it a good idea or bad?
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reader, Adorskable +, writes (31 January 2011):
She just got out of a marriage and maybe does not want to jump in the boat so soon. She might want to enjoy her freedom and maybe she felt a little pressure from you. You probably came to strong so fast. Talk to her give her space and time, but also be prepare for a rejection and accept her answer and move on if thats what she wants.
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reader, II_Seraphim_II  +, writes (31 January 2011):
Here is the honest to God truth, if you want her back, you have to try and get over her. I'm being serious. Just get on with your life, meet up with your friends, have a good time, don't call her or any such thing, don't initiate any type of conversation with her, but if she says "Hey" be nice and cordial and polite but then quickly excuse yourself.Basically, women tend to want what they can't have. If she sees that your are ok without her, and your life is moving on and you are having a great time without her, she will start to want you back. It's almost like a type of jealousy.. But the twist to this whole thing is that, when she wants to get back with you, you may not want her back anymore. Right now you are very emotional and crushed, trust me, I know what you are going through because I am too, but in my limited experience, I realized that when my exes wanted to get back with me, I really didnt want to anymore... After a break up with someone we truly cared for, we tend to only think of only the good times, but after a while, you will start to remember all the stress she caused you and all the bad things, and you may find that you dont want her back.And even if you want her back and it doesnt work out don't fret. Just think back to your parents (assuming they had a successful and loving relationship :P ), do you think your dad or your mom sit at home crying over some long lost ex? Of course not, if this doesnt work, it will hurt now, but once you meet the right person, you will be thanking God that this relationship fell through because had it not, you would never have met the right person.So basically, just keep your head up and concentrate on yourself. After a break up, its your time to take care of yourself, put yourself first and put her on the back burner. Do the things you enjoy, go out with friends. Don't be malicious though. There is never a place for malice. Dont try to make her jealous or any such thing. Just live your life, and trust me, she will most likely notice how your life is moving on successfully without her, and she may regret leaving u.Sorry for the long post :P
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