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*ookiebabyyy
writes:Hey guys!Heres my problemI have a very good friend who shall remain nameless which is 15. Every time I see her we always talk about her boyfriend which makes me mad. Because She says "Oh my boyfriend chose his friends over me" or "He lied to me he said he was going to quit smoking" or "He hangs out with girls but gets mad at me when I hang out with guys." She talks to me about leaving him that hes a dick and so many other names that we shall not say. But it irritates me because she asks me what I think about the situation and I tell her all she does is listen to her ipod and text while I'm talking to her. AND THAN the next day I'll see her again she says oh I left him. We're over. Another week passes by shes back with him again! Its been like this for 6 months!! She gets on my back about how do I stay so stable with my boyfriend blah blah blah. And than she starts talking about her boyfriend and his flaws again! I care for her very much I knew her ever since I could remember, How do I get her to listen to me AND How do I get her to leave her retarded boyfriend for good?
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reader, bookiebabyyy +, writes (10 January 2009):
bookiebabyyy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks you guys are right hopefully it works
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reader, Emilysanswers  + ♥, writes (8 January 2009):
You have to come to a point where you tell her that you just don't want to hear it any more.
As soon as she starts going on about him start texting and just tell her you are bored of hearing about it. Tell her that you try to be a good friend about it and all she does is ignore you and then go back to him so you just don't want to hear it any more.
It's harsh but at some point you have to stand up for yourself or shell just use you as her free councilling service forever.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, ohdearitserika +, writes (8 January 2009):
 i hate this kind of situation. youre being a good friend, which is hard, especially with such a stubborn friend. sometimes people can be blinded when they have a boyfriend or girlfriend. i know how irritating it can be, and ive lost friends over it. just keep pushing her. if she really cares about you, shell listen. sometimes you just have to stand up for whats right. its funny, because if/when they finally break up, shell come running to you. thats always how it works. its hard to be supportive when a friend isnt really a good listener, so im on your side lol. just stick with it. no one likes losing friends, so try your best to just be there and ease her into the right decision. hang in there, chica. i dont know you, but i feel for you, and you can always talk to me. i have plenty of friends like yours. girls can be clueless sometimes, huh? haha good luck.
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reader, nokutenda  + ♥, writes (8 January 2009):
l think its time for silence now, you have said all you can say but she not listening to you.
she knows he is not good for her but maybe she is sacred of being alone.
l once dated a player,l knew he was bad for me and everyone said so but l became defensive saying they hate my boyfriend and l was going to stay with him just to show them they were wrong.they became tired of talking and sort of accepted the relationship thats when l started to accept reality.
their quietness made all the difference.support her
hope it works
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