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anonymous
writes:me and my boyfriend have been together for eleven months and i believe that i give him oral sex more than he does it to me what should i do to get him to do it to me more often
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): Do you react when he does that? Do you respond and say you love it...?
When you go down on him, is it something he asks you to do or is it something that you do because you want him to give it back? Or do you do it because you want to? Only the last reason is valid :)
When you have sex do you ask each other what turns you on or is it you scratch my back, I scratch yours type of sex?
I find it difficult to understand this 'give' and 'take' transaction type sex.
I was in a relationship for more than a year before I decided I was comfortable enough to go down on him. Yet, he kept doing that on me since he loved it, right from the start. Now that I do it more often to him, we've still never counted what one does or the other doesn't. Sometimes all that happens is going down on him. Sex, I guess, is as much about pleasuring the other person as it is about yourself...
Someone else I knew completely hated the idea of going down on a woman. And he never asked anyone for oral sex. But the girlfriend wanted to pleasure him so did anyway...and he learnt to love it on himself yet would not go down on her or ask her to do it. He was great otherwise (so I heard) so sex was tons of fun anyway.
Maybe your boyfriend does not know about women, maybe he is a selfish lover... Then you need to educate him on more than this... Maybe your sex time needs to be punctuated with what you like and what he likes.
Sure, keeping yourself clean and all are great ideas and necessary but I think you need to rethink what sex is. It can't be much fun if you keep track!
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (10 October 2009):
whip cream. this is hard for me to imagine he isn't going down on you to your hearts content because I love going down on a girl. I actually enjoy giving more than receiving. if you keep it nice and tidy down there he should have no excuse not to go down more often. if he still doesn't go down on u more then simply cut back on your giving. or just stop all together
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2009): If asking him doesn't work then give him some incentive to want to do it more often.
Let me make myself clear though by incentive I mean reward for doing it, not punishment for not doing it.
Perhaps if he knows he will get oral more often if he gives it more often then he will.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (10 October 2009):
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reader, Fran7  +, writes (10 October 2009):
dead simply, wear as sexy as possible...xD
or another example..
go to his bedroom when no one is at home and wait for him to come in while you are naked..
well i dont want to ruin something between your relationship but i hope i have been helpful...
bye.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (10 October 2009):
 Simple really...just ask him :-) xx
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (10 October 2009):
 Do you ask him for it and he denies it to you? Make sure you are always super clean down there. Scrub really well. And shave it off down there, if you don't already do that. Sleek and impeccably clean and fresh smelling are a couple ways to make it more inviting for him to go down there...
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