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writes:I've been in a relationship for about 3 years now, but it's been off and on since the beginning. As of now, I haven't seen him since before the holidays. Last year, he avoided me for a long time because he hadn't gotten me a Christmas gift, and I'm wondering if that's whats going on now. If I'm right about that, I'd feel much better. For these 3 years, I have never once considered breaking up with him, yet if a friend was in my situation I'd tell them to find a new boyfriend and move on. He just keeps putting me off and never makes time for me. I am certain that he's never been unfaithful, and when I am with him, I feel like I am the most special person in the world. I love him very much and would do anything to be with him. He really does light up my life, but when it gets to times like this when he avoids me for a month, I get really depressed. I've tried talking to him about how we don't spend much time together, and it works for a little while, but then it goes back to the way it was. I don't want to lose him, but times like this make me feel like I've already lost. Has anyone ever been in this situation? What did you do to move past it? I really want to work on the relationship, but it's very difficult to get him to see it my way.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (7 January 2008):
 There are only three things ,one, he is very busy with his work or studies, two, he has another relationship and three, he has grown cold.
You will have to find out which and then take the appropriate actions.
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reader, benny boy  +, writes (4 January 2008):
Well it sounds to me from a guys point that he wants the best of both worlds- at times he enjoys being with you and in the relationship, then other times he wants space like how people are when they are single. I think you need to be strong, arrange to meet up (just the 2 of you) and get everything off your chest, say that you love him but it cant be like this how he is blowing hot and cold anymore because it doesnt make you happy. If you dont then he will have no reason to stop acting this way.
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