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writes:My boyfriend of 1 year and I have broken up. We have a make up to break up kind of relationship. We fight and argue a lot which always end up with a breakup and then we get back together in a day or less. We weren't like this all the time and I can't figure out why it keeps happening to us.However, this time the breakup seems very final which is really not what I want. And he doesn't want to speak to me or even tell me how we ended up in this spot again, all he said was he's sick of everything when we hadn't argued in a long while. I love him so much and I can't seem to stop losing him. Now his friend who's claim to have feelings for me is part of the reason we broke up. My ex claimed it hurt his friend too much, and I can't believe it since he's told me that he knows I'm the one for him and we were meant to be. Now everything just tear's us apart.I doubt he'd want me back or much less talk to me but anything is worth the try to save my relationship.
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 The problem with break up to make up relationships is that one day one of the person's involve will get tired of the breaking up to making up game and will eventually call your bluff.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 November 2010):
What relationship? From what you're saying, there is no relationship. This is more like two people who lead totally different lives, come together, break up, then come together and break up again and again. There's no way this can work. Especially considering that he effectively took his friends side and left you for that friend.
I'm sorry, but this isn't a relationship, this is just existence. And it's not even a good existence between you two. I don't see any way that you two can make this work. As soon as it goes wrong, you both just run rather than actually deal with it. And finally, he's left you, the woman 'he loves', and has claimed that he's doing it for the sake of his friend. Rubbish. He was looking for a way out and now he's got it.
The best thing you can do is find a guy you're compatible with, can speak to and sort out problems with, and a guy who won't ditch you for his 'friend who is in pain so much'.
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