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How do I get her to completely trust me, after what I did? Any good advice?

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Question - (27 January 2007) 1 Answers - (Newest, 27 January 2007)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

The worst year of my life

It all started with the internet oh the internet yea the internet

Well me ,my mom, brothers ,and my dad was living in Kentucky, We weren't making much money, not enough to live on so we had internet...at the time....and my dad decided to get online and look for jobs in South Carolina, where we lived previously a year earlier because of money problems as well, My dad ended up getting the same job he had the last time we lived there but they offered him much more money, so my dad moved down there and worked to support us in Kentucky. I felt bad that we had to move and I would have to break the news to my girlfriend, ending up breaking up with her and never got to say bye to my friends, we left so quick. So we get all of our stuff and move to South Carolina, with yet another offer a house, a very beautiful yellow two story house in a lovely quiet neighborhood. I ended up liking it and got over missing home so School started and we went and tried to enroll my brothers but they wouldn't accept us mostly because that our old schools wouldn't send the transcripts and files need to transfer to a new school. So we wait a few days and then go and try again, still cant so we keep doing this for a whole month and finally we are able to get enrolled. As I came to Wando, the new school I was going to, I was a bit nervous considering theres thousands of kids who attend it and its a quiet large place. Well I started class my first day and it wasn't hard to find my classes we only have 4 classes a semester so It was quiet easy! ^^

So I start my first block A+ Computer Repair Class, I was very nervous so I never talked and the teacher gave me the test they were having that day just to see what I knew I passed 100% I know computers ^^ Next class was ok, Business Personal Finance, I got there and had to make a Stock thing to keep up on stocks and see how much money I get till the end of class, nothing hard. 3rd bock was the best tho , 2D Art, whats so great about it? well I saw the most beautiful girl ever, Im not saying Ive never seen a prettier girl, there was something more than beauty to her, its something unexplainable but her personality and everything was amazing, I never talked to her right off the back I listened to her conversations, which let me tell you VERY INTERESTING, she liked to play games and such which was cool, I do too and from where Im from you dont see girls playing games often. Im not even going to explain 4th block class, FUCK IT, Fuck U.S. History! umm well a few days go by and I finaly get the balls to talk to her, I believe we talked about Final Fantasy 7 and for only a few minutes then i got silent again, but after a while I grew to like her alot more and did I forget to say she rode my bus, Halloween grew near and I was invited to come over to trick or treat with them so she gave me her address and phone number and When Halloween came I was sure to talk to her and tell her how I feel, there was others who walked with us so i was kinda shy to do it, She was Geisha and I was sadly Jason, eh but i had a cool sword. Every time I looked at her I just thought of how beautiful she was It was weird because I never experienced such feelings, i thought it must be love. We talked somewhat over the internet and on gaia. I started to go to her house and just enjoyed the fact that I could be there to be around her, I felt good, but I never really talked to her and just seemed bored every time. well theres nothing much to say but now its semester 2 and I still don't talk to her that much and Im alot more social with other people, just not her I think im still just shy around her... I stil talked to her online and i think i messed up by telling her I love her and that shes beautiful, but she doesn't believe me, for the fact that I have done many things that derailed me from her trust such as, telling my mom that me and her talk online my mom said that being online sounds weird for a girl and siad that she hopes she not doing porn or something, I made the stupid mistake of telling her what she said... Then one time on the bus this dude was picking on her and was "impregnating her" by poking her with his finger I went home that afternoon and ended up with another stupid thing by telling my mom that I got her pregnant, just joking of coarse, my mom didn't even believe me so I told her I was just joking and then I did another mistake by telling the girl what I did, she hated me for it and told me she didn't want to talk to me again, I felt really bad which I know I should have, She eventually forgave me, but still didn't trust me, I love her so much and want for her to forgive me completely and become more of a friend to her, How can I do this? I would do anything to be with her! Please someone help!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2007):

hey seems like your in need of help,

it seems as if the gurl really likes or atleast liked u. she seems as if she wanted to be around you and vise versa. but see u made one vital mistake letting the gurl know that u tell your mum everything that happens see even if u do, and i don't balame u some stuff is so hard to keep to yourself, it's the telling the gurl that u told your mum who told u that blah blah blah...

see by doing that it makes her feel sort-of insignificant she wants someone to be able to talk to and be with not someone who tells their mum.

What should u do???

I think you should just apoligise to her say your sorry, ask her why she didn't like what happened(her side of the story mite be different to yours). most of all u don't have to keep everything to yourself but when your talking to her possibly don't include "what your mum said". tell her what u think. be truthful. tell her why u like her. and if u like her say it to her face (it'll make her believe it!). if she likes u and u are truthful and not forceful mite take a while and mite be hard but ahe mite still really like u but is unsure about why she should trust u.

Hope this helps.

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