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writes:why is it that I am 25 years old and have never had a meaningful relationship in my life? The closest I ever had was in my teens but I had to break up with him because he was abusive. It seems now I go on a date with a guy and they are all over me and before I know it they have got me into bed. I just can't seem to speak up and say no. Sometimes I even get a little intimidated and almost scared of them, Why do I let them do this to me? Why am I so subservient to men? I was not raised that way. I usaly date a guy for a week or 2 at the most before the guy just stops calling me and I feel like a used slut. I hate myself for this and have givin up dating all together.I don't want to sound full of myself but I am told by men all the time rubber necking that I am super sexy. I myself don't think of myself as that, I think I am average looking but can clean up nice. What can I do to gain a mans respect and to see me for me. I know not sleeping with the person in the first week would help! but what else can I do to find Mr. right? Thanks for any advice anyone can give. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): Hi
Firstly, I understand, I have been there. I was involved in one incidence of abuse, and thankfully, that was the last time, as I got out of it, but it was bad. I hope you are getting better are living this experience x
Now, let me tell you something, you will know if the guy is right for you, if they are expecting you to jump in the sack a week or so after meeting them just because they have bought you a drink or two, they are not for you, so don't give in to them, they are assholes....
The key here, play hard to get, if a guy is interested in you for being you, he will chase you. If you meet a guy who you just click with, and get on so well with, then you know you may have met the right one, he will not push you into anything and you see he will be enjoying your company so much, then, when it happens, it happens. :)
Hope this helps, and until two weeks ago, I never thought i'd meet a nice guy....but I have :) It will happen for you and you will be the happiest person ever! x
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