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writes:hey guys! well,i'm trying to forget my first love but we were just a friends and he has a gf ,how i can forget about him and he still talking to me and he's soooooo nice with me, i can be just a friend but with his attitude what can i do ? i'm so harsh on him but he cares about me he undestands me without talking,and sometimes when i go out with our friends ( me and him and some friends) he walked with me,sometimes he touched my hair and he catch my hand a lot of times,and he gets so jealous when someone if his friends touch me or even talk to me, his gf is in another city but it's just a relationship in chat. so i want to forget him without loosing our friendship and without hurting him and myself plz help =)
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reader, manoul +, writes (11 October 2011):
manoul is verified as being by the original poster of the question but i told u that i can be a friend! i can do that, he never met his gf ever! he knew her from chat that's all! anyway i just want to forget my feelings for him and be just a friends! but he's so weird he's the only one who really cares about me! i'm so harsh on him soooooooo harsh i act like i don't care and i told him a lot of harsh things but he still nice with me i'm sooo in love with him he's my first and i'm not regret for anything;i'm happy to knew someone like him! the fact is i don't want another boy cuz nobody can treat me like him! so help me plz and i don't know what to do,? help =(
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (11 October 2011):
 Do you want to forget him because he has a girlfriend, or is there another reason??
You're not friends anymore, and if he has a girlfriend and you were intimate with him, you can't be just friends with him anymore. It doesn't work that way.
You have two choices, and only two:
1. Tell him that he needs to break up with his girlfriend if he wants to be with you, and that is non-negotiable. Tell him that you aren't a cheater, and that you will not play an "on-the-side" relationship with him.
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2. Tell him that you can't be friends with him based on your history together and his relationship with his GF, and end contact with him.
You can't do it without hurting him and/or yourself. You can't be just friends with him now since you've crossed that line, and it wouldn't be fair to his girlfriend. Put yourself in her shoes. You helped him cheat on her, which is pretty disgusting, and now you want to help him turn the thumbscrews on her by staying close to him. That has to stop. Whether he ends things with her and stays with you, or whether you end contact with him...it's gotta be done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2011): hii...i'm pretty sure that this won't be the first time that you hear this, buuut i'm gonna say it anyway. if you're like most people, you will NEVER forget your first love. they're a veryy important person in your life and always will be, no matter what happens. my own first love and i broke up a little over two years ago, and i still remember him like the back of my hand. and in the weeks following our break-up, he behaved much like your ex...even though he, too had a girlfriend (she wasn't in a different city, though).really, there's nothing you can do to change his behavior...unless you just tell him straight-up, "look, dude...i'm not gonna put up with this crap." buuut seeing as how you mentioned that you don't want to lose your friendship with him, i would advise against saying anything like that. there is a chance, however, that your other option is to just wait it out. when he gets over you more, he will probably stop acting that way.as for forgetting him, well...like i said, you probably won't EVER forget him. HOWEVER, there will most likely come a time in the future where you just won't think about him as much or feel the same way about him that you used to. for example, i used to think about my first love pretty much 24/7...and every time i did, all i could think about was how much i loved him and stuff like that. little by little, though, that changed. now, a little over two years later, i hardly ever think about him...and when i do, it's just because i heard a song that reminds me of him or something like that. i do miss him sometimes, but instead of just wallowing in it, i've gotten to the point where i can do things like hear songs and be like, "awh, i remember that time that me and him danced to this song. times like that were really great and sweet, but it's in the past." if you can get yourself to the point where you, too, can do things like that, then you won't be as bothered by the fact that you remember him, because remembering him won't be as painful.soo, yeahh...that's pretty much all i've got. hope i helped at least a little!!! ")good luck, and God bless,~sarsar~
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