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writes:So, to start, I'm sorry if this turns into a rant. I really want input from someone other than my friends who can be biased.Because of several events in my life that left me extremely traumatized, I get hit extremely hard by rejection. I've been broken up with three times in the past year and each time my anxiety bubbled up and I became depressed. Really, I know what I did wrong for the most part in these relationships. I'll admit it, I have had my problems with showing affection and communicating in general. I say the wrong thing at the wrong time. With this last break up, though, it not only hurt me because I wasn't good at communicating, he basically made me feel like I wasn't physically good enough for him. This killed me. I'm not anything special, but I'm not atrocious... or at least that's what I thought before this break up. In particular, I hate my nose and my skin. So, how can I fix my stupid nose preferably without surgery? I'm sorry if I sound shallow, this is just really affecting me. And also, what can I do to be more open with the people I care about? Any input is greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (21 July 2011):
 I'm sorry you feel that way. I hope you know that not all guys are like that and that you work at communicating more. The best thing I can think of is do something with makeup to take the focus off your nose and more to your eyes or lips for example. That may also be done with a piercing if that is something you are interested in. There isn't much you can do with the area you don't like but focusing on other parts often helps.
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reader, Mature Lady  +, writes (21 July 2011):
Listen darling you have to get it into your head that nobody is any better than you and stop blaming yorself for your relationship break ups,and any boyfriend that makes you feel bad about your self is not worth having in the first place,are there not any clubs you could join or just hang out in a crowd with yur friends where you will gain confidence,as far as your nose I bet it is only you that see's a problem lets face it,it did not stop boys asking you out in the first place,and anyway looks are only skin deep it is what inside a person that matters,you hold your head high be confident and as I said keep saying no one is any better than me.
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reader, BrokeAndHurting19 +, writes (20 July 2011):
hey there! you are a beautiful girl. I don't have to see you to know this. I too have a bad nose. when i was young my moms boyfriend punched me and severely beat me before slamming me into a brick wall. my nose was broken but didn't receive medical attention because my mom didn't want the police involved. after living with that burden throughout high school you learn how to cope with certain things.I have been called many names, but by now none of them affect me and now many people look past it. When i broke up with my 2nd girlfriend she called me hook nose and said i was heinous. Now I am almost to the point where I am proud of my nose because I realize I don't need another person in my life to make me happy I have myself. With this mindset it has put me at ease around the opposite sex and girls don't even seem to get bothered by my nose. Bottom line is just have confidence and I'm sure it will all work out.
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