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30-35,
*hanarawr
writes:well i have been going out with my boyfriend for a month now and i am the happiest girl alive totally smitten. a few days ago he broke it to me that he was going into the army... i wasnt to happy when i heard that its not the distance that bothers me cause i know at the end of the day when he comes home that he will be coming home to me and only me its just the fact its extremely dangerous out there on the frontline or where ever you are. many people are dieing out there and it upsets me to think one day i will be watching tv on a normal day and i see his face come up on the screen cause it happens.he told me that it is what he wants to do so i dont want to ruin he dream.if anyone has a boyfriend or girlfriend in army can you please give me advise! i dont want to lose this boy thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): It sounds like you're still in that very early stage of love and you have to remember something . . . this is a new relationship. You don't even know this guy that well and sometimes our view of people is especially skewed in the beginning when we're just falling in love. If he wasn't joining the army, you'd maybe spend another few months with him and find out he cheats, compulsively picks his nose, is mean to his mom, etc etc etc, and this relationship could possibly end.
Take it slow. :) You're both young if he's joining the army. Don't go crazy exchanging rings or signing marriage papers. Agree to see where this goes and be honest with each other if it doesn't. Maybe relationships that aren't meant to be are solidified too soon because we panic over losing someone and make rash decisions.
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