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writes:Hi im 15 and my sister who is 11, is very hard to handle. My little sister always gives my parents,older brother, and especially me, a very hard time each day. She is very rude, always mentions rude topics or words. If we tell her to do something she whines and complains about it, and most of the time just won't do it. She just never listens. She always spends all her time on the laptop like literally ALL her time, only takes about an hours break off of it each dayy, she will be on at like 3 am! And one time she had done this very bad thing on the computer, which included my mates from school. then they all confronted me and it was very pleasant. the whole school found out and up to this day everyone still asks me about it. And I havnt even dare tell my parents about it, god knows what will happen. We have tried telling her that she spends too much time on the computer, and shows a lot of attitude, but all she ever does in argue back or threaten to kill herself. I am tired of taking this shit from her, because i am older than her, and she needs to realize that and show some respect. So far this year, there have been nothing but hard times for our family. My uncle passed away and then my cousin passed away in the summer. And my sisters friend (who went to my school) had died. I doubt that she is acting out, because all this had been going on before. And she doesn't realize how much i've been going through. I wake up every morning literally feeling useless, i miss my cousin dearly, and with her attitude towards me each day , it just makes me worse and makes me want to leave. I literally cry myself to sleep everynight. I need help on how to help her, because maybe for once our family can just be put back together again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): It isn't up to you. Its up to your parents to sort the little snot-rag out.
Make these suggestions:
1)Take away the laptop and allow only 1 hour out of every day to be used for recreational use. All other use must be for school, and heavily monitored.
2)Try to get your parents to give her a good whack across butt sometime. Make sure it hurts but will do no lasting damage. This must however needs to be used as a last resort.
3)Reward ONLY good behaviour. Punish bad behaviour with severity and regularity. There is no point punishing someone if you aren't willing to go through with it.
4)Take away ALL communication devices from her room (phones and such) and allow her only monitored time with them.
5)Tell her she will be under virtual house arrest (except for school, there is no controlling what she does there) until such time that she can prove to her parents that she can be trusted to behave and do every chore they set for her without question or complaint.
Sounds harsh.
But somtimes you have to be cruel to be kind.
Flynn 24
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