A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:I have been hurting lately. Not to the point of complete depression but enough to make me feel a little sad and unsure about myself. Even though I never knew her, I had a sister who died when I was only a baby, so I am an only child. My father tells me stories about how her an me always used to be together. I have no idea if this is me trying to fill a void that my sister left behind or another issueBut I really, really value friendships. and I have always wanted that really really special relationship with someone. At my new school, there are these girls that live in the same neighborhood and they are all close with each other and with the people that I want to be close to. They have known each other for years and years, and they get to see each other all the time.I wish I had that kind of relationship with someone or a group of people, but I do not and whenever I become equivalently close with someone the relationship is always broken by the fact that I have to change schools.So I am always yearning, you know and I know "yearning" is a strong word for someone my age but that's the way it feels sometimes.I have been hurt a lot this school year. I hang out with a lot of seniors(a great deal of them are guys) and among them was this guy I thought was really cute but he ignored me most of the time, even when I talked to him(it was usually just a hi, how are you?) but I had found out from my other guy friends that he had disliked me because I hugged him and he did not know me.I had hugged because one of them said that he wanted one and I thought he did. I felt really bad afterwards, I didn't mean to offend him at all. I was just trying to make friends with him the best way I knew how. Though if only I had known how reserved he really was I wouldn't have done what I did. I am just not used to the environment at my new school where there are people who are so closed in.I am learning though, bit it is still difficult you know?I felt apologizing to this boy who I had liked but I never got the chance to in person. I have a lot of courage though, or I have the ability to muster it up when I need it, so I left him a casual apology if I had urked him. I just do not like to leave things bad....(if this makes sense) XDSo overall I am still a sensitive and naive young girl who loves friendship very much and has to now face stuff like this all the time at my new school.How do I cope with this feeling of loneliness and rejection? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (5 May 2012):
 Have you tried writing? Any kind of writing, keeping a journal, or writing short stories? What you have written is well written, and you express yourself extremely maturely for your age. Writing could be away for you to fill that void, and to communicate with others. It will always be hard for you to maintain friendships if you are continually moving. But writing is something you can do for yourself anywhere, and writing about your feelings of loneliness and rejection can also help you deal with these emotions.
Do you play sport, or have any interests that could be an avenue for making friends, that isn't connected with your school?
I hope some of this helps. Don't give up trying. xxx
|
