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How do I convince my boyfriend that I didn't have relations with my ex while we were on a break?

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Question - (2 February 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 4 February 2012)
A female United States age , *cooby.1960 writes:

My boyfriend and I broke up for 2 weeks and he had a one night stand with someone. When we got back together he was honest and told me about his one night stand and asked me if there had been anyone else for me during that time, I said no. Now after almost 3 weeks and everything going good, he looked in my phone and seen a text conversation from an old boyfriend that I text during the breakup. He feels that I deceived him and lied to him. This old friend will rear his ugly head occasionally and text me stupid stuff. This time he wanted to talk to me about his son that had gotten n trouble a year ago, so I told him I would be home later he could come talk about this. He did come over n we sat in the garage and talked about his girlfriend, Isis son, and my boyfriend. He stayed about 20 minutes and left, no physical contact, he makes my skin crawl that way, but after that he started texting me how sexy my booty was and how he wanted me, and that's the conversation that my boyfriend seen. I tried to explain but he thinks that I deceived him. When he asked if there had been anyone else I was truthful in sayin no, he says it's the same thing. Help!!!!! He won't talk to me or forgive me for what he thinks that I have done.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2012):

"How do I convince my boyfriend that I didn't have relations with my ex while we were on a break?"

Let him know in no uncertain terms you will not allow him to slander your good name with baseless accusations (of which he is likely guilty himself) by leaving him. Immediately. If you waver one second, welcome to the rest of your miserable life.

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A female reader, AbigailBradbury United Kingdom +, writes (3 February 2012):

AbigailBradbury agony auntPOT KETTLE BLACK MUCH?! sorry to be so harsh, but you say this guy went off with someone else? And yet he's preaching to you about your ex?? This guy is being stupid. So what if anything did happen. its not one rule for him and one for you is it??

If this guy wont take your word for it then he isnt worth it. he obviously doesn't trust you. you need trust or you dont have anything honey.

You've done everything you can, all you can give is your word, the truth. if he doesnt believe what you say and take you at face value then he's never going to let it lie. only you know the truth. you can try and convince him but it wont work. why should you be the one saying sorry or grovelling or begging him to talk to you when you havent done anything wrong?

tell him he needs to have faith in you or you'll leave.

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