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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Recently , I joined dating-site and got a 49 years old American lady interested but she said she could only be good friend as I am too young for her being 30 years old. She added me on Yahoo Messenger and she looks 10 years younger than her age. She has been divorced for the last five years and has two children of 15 and 17 years. Since she is my friend now, for how long I should wait before propose her being my girlfriend and then potential wife again? I don’t know why but I find American women of age group of 35-50 bloody hot, attractive and nice to be consider for relationship , aren’t they? Hey, I am not perusing her just to land myself in the USA and then get a green card there, it’s just I have a thing for mature American girls and also I can go there on student visa or visit one, so I would appreciate if you guys could get this factor out of your precious answers to help me convert this one-way love into two ways. Thanking you all in anticipation!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (29 November 2011):
 It's more than just your age I'm sure it's the LDR part of it as well and she's just being kind.
you have to wait to ask her to be your gf till you have met her in real life and spent some serious time with her.
get that travel visa and make an effort if you think she's worth it. but don't do it as a surprise and don't do it just to visit her... this may lead to great disappointment on your part...
plan a trip... incorporate her visit into a greater trip and see if her feelings change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2011): I would establish a firm friendship first. I am a believer in real relationships are based on friendships. A friendship offers trust and confidence, something that you lack if you rush into a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2011): i am young but let me get this straight...maybe its not only age difference. Hmm?? And if you are 100% sure its only age difference then maybe it can work out if you have all that takes to be a good husband. Try to talk to her about that.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 November 2011):
 To be honest I don't believe in somebody asking a person to be in a relationship with them before even meeting them. Yes am sure you both get on well over the internet but when face to face with each other it could be completely different. You are being way to forward here and thinking way to much in to the future. You need to take your time and get to know her first. Do you visit the states at all? I don't see how a relationship could work between the both of you to be honest. Maybe suggest that you both meet up as friends first and see how it goes before you mention anything else.
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