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writes: i want to start dating up unil now ive just been sleeping around and i want to get into more serious relationships.the problem is I don't really know how i've never really been in one. if some could please give me some advice it would be greatly appreciated Reply to this Question
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reader, Yos  +, writes (5 May 2006):
 It's quite simple really. When you meet a girl you think could be your girlfriend just avoid having sex for a while (and I mean weeks or months, not days). By all means flirt with her, but just hold off from the sex and get to know her first. If she flings herself at you, well, try telling her you are looking for a proper relationship and would like to wait and get to know her better. If she won't accept that, then you have to decide what to do at the time... (it's not too hard to imagine what one would do). However most girls are looking for relationships rather than just sex so you'll probably find she'll like you more for it... with any luck enough to want a relationship with you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2006): Once you find someone you know you like enough to date, keep in mind that this is going to be a transition. One that will take a conscious effort. You will catch yourself in old behavior or thinking patterns and it takes time to break, and it feels weird even its for the best.
Its best to start communicating with the person your interested in dating for while before you ask them out on a date. This way, when your on the date it will just flow, reducing your chances of a wasted evening, and no kiss good night. Now w. that being said its good to show interest, ask to hold her hand, make her feel your warmth, etc. even on the first date. If you get the green light before then, go. Just pay attention so you don't miss our ques. If you are consistent w. these few simple basic concepts, with a female who is interested in you also, you can't go wrong.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (4 May 2006):
 If you want to start dating you have to get to know the person before jumping into bed with them as friendship is really important - the sex will get dull quickly if you have nothing else in common. That is the way to build a loving relationship rather than one based purely on lust.
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (4 May 2006):
 onlym you can decide whener you wnat to change or not
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