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writes:Please help. So I'm going to this guy I'm dating's house today for lunch. The thing is 2 weeks ago we hung out at his place and we had sex. We used to date about 2 years ago and we stopped talking and now we met up again (about 2 months ago). I don't want him to think that I'm easy and I'm gunna give it up to him all the time. How do I avoid having sex with him? Do I tell him from the moment I get there that we are not gunna do it? Or do I just avoid him and stop if he tries to do stuff? Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): Don't go to his place, meet him out somewhere instead. He can hardly start sex in the middle of a bar or coffee shop or park!
Oh, and say NO. And if he insists, ask him which part of no he doesn't understand.
I wonder whether really you do want to have sex with him though, as otherwise why did you give in last time?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (18 April 2008):
Meet him, have a great time, and if he makes a move then tell him straight.
Tell him because of your history you want to take things slowly. If he's fine that is a good sign, if he's strange with you then ask yourself what he's after.
Don't announce it when you turn up at the house though, it's a bit insulting as it makes him think that you think that sex is all he's after.
If you are really worried then meet him in public places.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your responses. I'll be sure to update you guys on how it goes. Thanks again.
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (18 April 2008):
 Just tell him you would perfer to wait and not rush in to it straight away, he should understand if he respects you if he doesnt then he simply isnt worth anything.
Goo luck.
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reader, salvation +, writes (18 April 2008):
well dont say it as soon as you get there just hang out and have fun and if he trieds anything stop and just tell him you dont feel like it. Be honest. Good luck and pm me if ya need to talk.
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reader, scarlettABiGAiiL +, writes (18 April 2008):
 Babe, Just liike tell him that you dont feel like doing it, or that your want to give it some more ltime. He would understand if he was reasonable.x
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