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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks now. Thought it was going really well. Talk to him every night on phone and meet up with him when we both can as we live 2 hours away and both have kids. Last night we had planned for him to come over to my place for dinner and the night...was all arranged and had organised a babysitter for my daughter and things. 6pm came around and he still hadnt arrived so I texted him and said let me know when you get into my area and I'll come meet you if you like. He then said oh ok wasnt sure if you wanted me to come still so Ill leave now. I told him of course I did, thats what we had arranged!!! But then he started saying things like, yes we arranged but then you have not text me much the last couple3 of days and he wasnt feeling the love so didnt know what to think....I told him I have cooked a meal for us and got my daughter babysat and that I have texted him earlier that day and that had been at work all day so not had alot time to be texting him constantly...I dont understand why he acted like this and said all the stuff he did. He did come down and stayed the night...but Im not sure if he did only come down now because he felt he had to. Now im confused whether he is still keen on me or not.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (13 June 2009):
 Nothing prevented him from picking up the phone and asking, if he wasn't sure. However, if this is the 1st time it's happened, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. It probably is simply a miscommunication since he did come down after all. Just tell him that if he has questions about a date next time, please give you a ring or text you so you can avoid this in the future.
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reader, PHUCKET +, writes (13 June 2009):
 This sounds like a miscommunication between a man and a woman. You guys hardly know what to expect from each other-yet-so maybe you were a little hard him. To him, you never confirmed the date--either the day of or the day prior. And to you, your plans were arleady set. You were being proactive and prepared.How was he supposed to know that you did all of that when he stated it's been 3 days since you spoke? I personally would not reserve to a 2 hour drive commitment with anyone if I haven't spoken to them in 3 days. You should be more understanding and put yourself in his shoes. It is just a matter of getting to know what to expect from each other going forward. Just a hurdle for you two to get through. It's still new between you two. He probably just didn't want to make a fool of himself by showing up like planned, and you be the one that forgot. Make sense?
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