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*lowerpower810
writes:So a few weeks ago I decided to go on criagslist personals. I came across an ad for a guy and decided to reply. We exchanged pictures, and hit it off instantly. We began emailing eachother back and forth every day for about a week and then he asked me to text him. We continued our conversations over text messaging- all day every day. Finally about two weeks later I got fed up with the fact he hadn't asked me out yet, so I asked him- and he said yes! The next text message he sent was him asking me what my name was! He told me that he had deleted our previous emails so he couldn't go back and remind himself. I was shocked and found it odd that he didn't know my name after how long we've been talking. I know that he is atleast interested in me- it shows just by the amount of effort he puts into continuing our conversations. Is this a bad sign? Could he possibly be just testing me? Or trying to make himself not look so desperate?
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reader, flowerpower810 +, writes (21 March 2012):
flowerpower810 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have not met him yet! Possibly this weekend but, I've started to reconsider. I really don't think talking to other girls is much of an issue, and I'm pretty confident in the fact that he knew my name. I don't know why the name situation wouldn't have come up sooner, considering how much we've been talking, and how much he asks questions about me. I thought that he was possibly just trying to show me he wasn't as "interested" as he is. It's fairly immature and I very well could be making excuses for him but, I will definatly proceed with caution
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 March 2012):
 umm, yeah you are just a nameless faceless person to text with...
if he was REALLY interested in anything he would have asked you out first... seriously.
I agree that deleting the emails is odd.
I have every email my fiance and I have ever sent and we were LDR for a year....
meet him but keep your guard up.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 March 2012):
 Yeah that is just WAY off. After weeks of texting and emails and he "forgot"? Now if he had been smart he would have asked you if you had a nick name and called you that.
The fact that he deleted all e-mails sounds fishy too.....
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 March 2012):
 Please keep in mind that those of us guys who are "hot" have hoards of girls seeking out attention.... and it's sometimes very difficult to delineate one (girl) from another..... AND, if we're not fastidious with our bookkeeping we might misplace one of their names....
Looks like this is what happened with this prospective "guy-friend" who you describe....
One way to handle it is to re-up our name, then stand by for him to ask you out...
The other (better) way for you to handle it is to write HIM a text/email and open it "Dear (some name that you KNOW is not his!)".....
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reader, Dragonheart  +, writes (20 March 2012):
 I think your gut feeling is right, something is wrong with this guy. That he doesn't remember your name after you spoke for WEEKS by e-mail and text, exchanged pictures and agreed to meet could mean he is talking to several girls at the same time, he's a player or he just doesn't care really. Be cautious!
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