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writes:How come I keep going for the girls that don't like me? I cant seem to get this girl I really like. She won't go out with me. I have been asked her out 6 times since I told her how I felt, so I don't think it's a matter that I am repulsive or somehthing like that. Anyone who could shed light on my situation? I will greatly appreciate it!!!!!please offer any advice!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Girl Pants  +, writes (1 May 2007):
 HeyIt's pretty common actually. At the age of 16-17, you don't have to hurry in finding the one you really like. Just be patient! I was like you too, falling for guys who don't like me. What 'Maverick' said is true. But i would like to tell you this. I can tell you are a great guy but please don't change yourself for the person you like. Changing your behaviour or personality is a no-no. Always be yourself. Well, i like guys who are being themselves and not changing or acting differently just to get my attention.Good Luck!
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reader, maverick  +, writes (1 May 2007):
 Hello mate. Don't worry you are in the situation I used to be in. You will get through this as long as you can figure out why.
Let's look at the various parts of your question.
First, you keep going after girls that don't like you. I used to be like that. This is similar to a case of "the grass is greener on the other side" or "something you don't have will always look better than what you have". I used to percieve some of the girls I was after as really great girls - the "prizes" in high school. You will need to let go of this behaivour. I did actually get to go out with one of the grils and it was real disappointing experience but made me realise how wrong I was thinking they were worth having around - they are just people.
Second, I've learned the very hard way girls do not respond to "I love you" etc. I love you is only an indicator of attraction - it doesn't cause her to fall for you. Please stop saying unless its to family members or you partner. If she doesn't feel abything for you now then you need to do something about it.
What you need to do is really show her and everyone else you are a great guy. You need to attract her to you. Once you do that she feel attraction towards you and you will become approachable.
Be confident, charming, fliry, smart, well-presented, happy, use body language well, etc. Good luck.
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