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writes:I've been talking to this guy for a few weeks and we're really connecting. I really like him and I think this might turn into something. But here's the thing, I haven't been in a relationship in three years. He just got out of a long-term one (almost a year) a few months back so he obviously knows what he's doing. And even back then, I didn't know how to be a girlfriend. My previous relationship lasted 3 months and the one before that, 4 months. How can you trust someone so completely with every flaw and secret that you have? I don't think he would judge me but on the other hand, we JUST met. I need some advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 October 2012):
 One time, a girl I was dating agreed that we could/should SHARE all our flaws with one-another....
As it happened, she was able to give me her's in just a few minutes (She didn't vacuum her car very often. She failed to tip her newpaper boy, one Christmas.... etc...)
But, when it came time to list my flaws, the darn list kept going on and on.... in fact, I was still trying to complete the thing (the list) 4 days later!!!
She got bored, and dumped me and started dating my best friend!!! (.. .who, incidentally, had a beautiful '56 Chevy convertible....)....
Soooo, it's not unheard of....
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 October 2012):
 Trust comes with time. It has to be earned and gained, not just a conscious choice. It is just something that comes with spending time together. You wouldn't just go up to a coworker and say, "Hey we're best friends now," you'd have to be friends for a long time first.
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reader, AuntyAunt  +, writes (4 October 2012):
 'How can you trust someone so completely with every flaw and secret that you have?' - you just do! when you can trust this person completely, you'll know.
There is no reason for you to tell him everything about you so soon anyway. He has secrets too. Take things slowly, have fun and enjoy yourselves! Get to know one another more.
Everything will probably reveal itself over time as you both get closer and your relationship gets stronger.
There is no need to worry.
Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2012): Hi There! I can see that you really want to make this relationship work. That's a good start.Since you just met, you don't need to tell him everything about you, especially if those things involved something from the past. Its past so, meaning it happens at a time you haven't met yet. Whatever happens in the past stays in the past until such time your comfortable to tell him. give it time.How to be a perfect gf?1. Give him space, don't nag. let him have his me time.2. Don't call or text him more than twice a day, and most of all, don't initiate to contact him everyday.3. Be beautiful, all the time your together, re invent yourself, Be sassy, classy and cute in his eyes. 4. Never try to argue at an early phase. if something pissed you off, breath and relax, keep your cool. it would make him think your classy not crazy.5. if he tells you he loves you, smile and say i love it when u say you love me coz i love u.Most of all just relax and enjoy the ride. as you say you just met, so don't go overboard. Good luck...
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