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writes:Can a man and woman return to being friends after flirting?Let me be more specific - this guy and I have been flirting back and forth since last summer, culminating to when I was home for Christmas (gazing into my eyes, lots of eye contact, smiling and laughing, sitting very close to me, etc.) But ever since then he has ignored me. Since that time I have also found out his age, which makes me decide that I do not want to pursue a relationship; I only want a friendship. But things seem to have become awkward between us as he has been totally blowing me off for close to three months now; completely unlike him. So is there a way that we can go back to friends (the way we were before the flirting)? I am thinking of sending him an email in a good month's time (either late March or early April); you know, giving him some space now, and just laying everything out on the table - telling him how confused I am that he's ignoring me, telling him how much I miss talking to him (especially since I'm so far away from home, family and friends), and - most importantly - telling him that I consider him a good friend and nothing more. Does that sound like a good idea? Is there anything I can do to get back to the way we were and remain friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): Hi, OP here - Yeah, the only problem is I live several states away (let's just say he lives in the northeast US and I live in the south central US) and won't be home until the summer (at least June). That's why I thought the email might be beneficial cause if I "play his game" and ignore him back until I'm home, that'll be at least six months that we haven't talked and I feel at that time there'd be nothing we could do to at least salvage the friendship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): agh, same thing happened to me. it sounds like he doesnt know what the hell he wants and doesnt know how to talk to you about it.. i.e ignore you
just meet up with him and decide if hes worth keeping as a friend- if he treats you badly he isnt worth your friendship x
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