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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (6 April 2010):
 Ooo this is a lovely post. You go girl hope you get your man!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the suggeston. Iwill try lagging behind. Wil let you know.
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reader, lonesum dove  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 So don't walk with the group, linger behind them, just a few minutes which will give you or him a chance to speak, if there is some interest he will find a way... good luck and keep me inform.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe isn't asking me out because when I see him I am never alone. I live in the suburbs and walk to commuter rails with neighbors. There is plenty of eye contact when drives by and so it is clear there is interest. It would be awkward for him to come up when I am with people. I am in a town that isn't in his precinct and so just to knock on my door would be weird as well. I agree re chasing men but there is something about him and I plan to pursue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBrilliant Timm and thanks.I will try it and let you know.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (2 April 2010):
 You're going into this like you're doing something wrong and you are not. Yes, his name is common... but the receptionist isn't thinking "Is this woman calling to ask this guy out?". Keep in mind, a police station receptionist is not a 911 call taker. Pretend you really are just calling to thank the officer for something nice he did. Either say you'd like to have his full name to send him a thank you card OR try to get his voicemail. You may have to think on the fly a little bit, but the receptionist or person answering the phone isn't going to try to confirm your story or think you're not telling the truth.
IF they try to ask too many questions just stick to the story. If they don't give up his name just say "Well his first name is so and so, just tell whoever he was thanks for the assistance." and leave it at that. Remember... YOU know you're making all of this up, but they don't.
PS: don't be asking for his address or anything like that. Just maybe his last name - Officer "so and so" so you can know who to address your thank you letter to.
Good luck. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): Next time you see him, give him your card or your number, and just casually ask him to call you sometime. Don't go calling the police station trying to track him down, as if he finds out it was you, he might think it a little odd. If you give him your number, the balls in his court and you can relax. Good luck! Can't beat a man in uniform...!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe officer has a common first name unfortunately and so i will most certainly be asked for a last name or description. I do know the precinct he works out of but haven't seen him for awhile. Schedules change often and so that could be the reason. He actually knows where i live as i have seen him drive by my house even though i am in a different town and precinct. That is how i know there is interest. But he is in uniform and i get the impression a little shy; so he wouldn't necessarily stop to give me his number. I will definitely have to take the initiative. You are correct he could access my info but he is professional and I don't think he would do that. I try calling the precinct. Additional ideas are welcome. We keep you posted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Timm.
Thats a great idea and I will get up the courage to do so. I'm a bit nervous but that a great idea. But what if there are several officers with the same first name? It is a common name and so i would have to describe him. Is that suspect? Do you think they would really give me the info?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSirrena, Facebooks is good but I'm afraid i would find thousands with the same first name as it is common.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Could you possibly locate him on Facebook?
That's what came into my head. I kind of like Timm's idea, though.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (2 April 2010):
Could you possibly locate him on Facebook?
That's what came into my head. I kind of like Timm's idea, though.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (2 April 2010):
Do you know what police department he works for? If you do (the City, Borough, etc) then I would start there. You can try calling there and making up something like: "I just wanted to get the full name of one of your officers who was kind enough to help me get assistance when my car broke down one day." Yes, it's a lie... but it's an innocent one and he would most likely find it flattering once he found out. If you need to elaborate you can just say you want his full name so you can send him a thank you card or something.
You would also most likely have the option to leave him a voice mail at his station so if that is a possibility you can just leave a message and be honest "Hi, I'm the woman from blah blah... I'd like to ask you something..."
That's the best idea of got at the moment for ya. :-)
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reader, UncleDoug +, writes (2 April 2010):
Hi,
You can go down to the local police department, speak to the reception desk, explain you want to contact this officer for personal reasons and give them your number to give to him.
Good luck.
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reader, lonesum dove +, writes (2 April 2010):
call the precint where he work and ask for officer... more than likely he wont be available, at that time you will leave your name and number, or write your name and number on business card and hand it to him.
good luck... keep us posted
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (2 April 2010):
 If he patrols in your neighborhood find out what precinct he's in. Call the precinct - hopefully he won't have a common name like John. See if you can leave a message for him. How many times have you met or spoken? If you are able to give him your last name believe he will be able to find you - as an officer he has access to all types of databases.
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