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writes:[op original title]I'm 19 years old and pregnant. I don't know what I'm going to do but I want to tell my mother. I'm just terrified at the thought of how she'll react. But truth is, I cherish her opinion more then anybody elses, even my baby father. As far as him, he's supportive I guess, but he has his own issues, like his 2 mnth old son. Go figure why he'd have sex with me unprotected, and risking having another kid so soon. But the fact is, its MY decision, and this is the second time I'm in this situation. I'm leaning more towards keeping it but I just need to find a way to tell my mom. Does anybody know how I can do that? Any similar stories would also help. ThnXx in advance guysz. Reply to this Question
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (11 July 2010):
 You cannot put all the blame on the father of the baby. You both decided to have unprotected sex - you could have said no, but you didn't. You need your mother on side and I am guessing she isn't going to see your boyfriend as 'bargain of the year' if he already has children at such a young age with someone else. You don't say if your boyfriend is financially supporting the other child, but if you keep the baby then you need to have that discussion with him. The reality is that bringing up babies costs money, but also leaves you exhausted and emotional. My two year old leaves me drained but he is a treasure too! You need to talk to your mother and do it alone - if the 'sperm donor' is in the room she may vent her anger on him rather than deal with the real issue at stake which is her young daughter having a child. Expect her to be angry, disappointed, disapproving etc...but she will calm down and come around to the idea of being a grandma. Motherhood may well be the making of you if you decide to keep the baby, but you need her support too since the father doesn't seem very responsible. But you need to develop the self confidence to say no in the future to unprotected sex, or else you will end up with a tribe of kids by the time you are 30.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): I know you said that your babys daddy has his own issues but it would be better if he went with you to tell your mom. Its most likly gonna be scary at first but if you really wanna keep the baby then you need to try n at least tell your mom.
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