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writes: If things didn't work out with a girl and ended badly. Then you guys end up seeing each other in class a month later and he clearly doesn't want to talk to her. She still does. He knows he can't have her so what's the point of being friends? Is it okay for a guy to say to her – which is better?"you know, im not trying to be a jerk or anything, but i much would appreciate it, if we didn't talk. i just feel more comfortable that way."Girls how would you react, knowing that this guy likes you that much?Or what if he said:"you know, im not trying to be a jerk or anything, but i much would appreciate it, if we didn't talk for awhile. I still have these strong feelings for you. it hurts"and then the guy would just walk away. very calm. very soft spoken. but to the point, right? but again, which is better?should he say, that "if we didn't talk." or "if we didn't talk for awhile."please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): Both sound fine to me. But it depends what you want. The first one, where you say "If we didn't talk..." would make me think that you mean never agin. I would assume you don't want to know anymore at all. I think it is a polite way of saying it, but I would guess you would want nothing more to do with me.
The second one, "If we didn't talk for a while..." would make me think that you need some space to deal with your feelings and work things out in your head. It would leave me thinking that you would still maybe like to try again in the future.
So I think it depends what you want. If you want to leave things for good, say the first one. If you are not sure, and would possibly like to try again at some point after some space, say the second one. Just my opinion anyway, hope it helps! x
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