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writes:I know the title is a little bit misleading, but I find myself obsessing a little bit too much over my girlfriend. I am a 21 year old male and she is a little bit younger than I am. I care a lot for my girlfriend. We've been dating for about 6 months now, and everything is going well. I'm not entirely sure of all the reasons for this...but I'll try to to my best to explain them. In the past my girlfriend has been in many casual relationships, many of which haven't lasted a very long time. She confided in me that the relationship that we have now has been much deeper on an emotional level than any of her past relationships. Naturally this made me very happy. It just seems that whenever she leaves, arrives just a little late, or doesn't call me when she says she's going to I get upset. I wouldn't call it a panic attack, but I get really anxious. I've never actually had an outburst when something like this happens, because I know that I would be over-reacting to something small and inconsequential...so I've never mentioned to her how it can make me feel sometimes. I know deep down that my anxious feelings are irrational, but it's very difficult for me to curb them. I don't want to let these feelings boil over too much and hurt our relationship, because I feel giving her space is important and when I have these feelings I never call her because I know I would sound unstable and ridiculous.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (6 September 2009):
 You've already identified the problem, and that's the first step. Now, when you notice that you have these feelings, try to acknowledge them out loud, even if it's only under your breath. Try saying, "I accept that I am feeling anxious", for example. Often acknowledging the feeling takes away the power it has over you. It's okay to feel stressed and anxious at times.
I think that if you work on acknowledging your feelings, you will be able to keep the irrational thoughts from hurting your relationship.
Good luck.
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reader, Roboaxe +, writes (6 September 2009):
 I agree with what has been said. She likes you man, don't fret over the tiny little details. Girls in general aren't extremely punctual about things like that. If she trusted you enough to tell you about her past relationships, I think you have nothing to worry about her being a little late to a date.
Enjoy :)
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (6 September 2009):
 I think your thinking to hard into this, if she arrives late or doesn't call when she says, just means she's busy at that moment in time.
But she has made it clear you are important to her, so don't worry.
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