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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I’m a university student and I had a bit of a problem with some of the girls in that they bullied me a bit to get what they wanted because I wasn’t part of their gang. They didn’t get exactly what they wanted as other people stood up for me but they now blame me for the way that things turned out, even though I was did not actually say anything or do anything when there were arguments. Now, they exclude me from things and this means that other people also do as they stick to this group thing, which I am obviously not a part of. Normally I ignore it because they aren’t worth it but I’m not really sure what I did in the first place to deserve being excluded. I do have some good friends but some of them are also friends with this group, which makes it harder for me because when I see photos and hear stories of their nights out, it’s a bit of a slap in the face that it wasn’t even mentioned to me and it doesn’t make me feel very good. I was also quite ill over the past few weeks, which had an adverse effect on my university work but also meant that I had no chance of me going out with group, which just leads to me being even more alienated. It’s not like I can really talk to the people about it because everyone knows each other, boys think you are being silly and girls bitch. They make me unhappy and it makes me feel worse about my whole university life.Then there is the normal problem of boys. I’m not ugly but I’m not the prettiest girl you will ever meet. I do get male attention but all these men ever want is sex. None of them seem to actually want me. There was a point when one of my friends was attracted to me but it never came to anything and he then told me he didn’t fancy me anymore, which again dented my confidence. It annoys me when the girls I know are in relationships with 2 guys and yet I don’t even have 1. Then there is the part of me that thinks that maybe this isn’t such a bad thing as most of the men that I have hint of a relationship with have turned out to not be very reliable or nice.How can I stop myself letting these people from making me feel bad about myself?
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (22 December 2008):
 The first thing you should ask yourself is why does it bother you that much.
Found out why you don't want to be by yourself, fix it, and people will come to you.
Others see in us what we see in ourselves.
Life is not about who you associate with, it's about how many hearts can you touch.
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