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writes:I am writing this coz I want to know why i am, "the way i am".i'm 24 and i have a girlfriend of 5 months, she was my friend initially for about 4 months. She lived nearby, i saw her quite often. then after 3 months together she left to another country for studies, i have spent 1 weekend with her since she left, i miss her so much.the problem: i have cheated on her twice since she left. i feel upset, guilty and fearful about it. the two girls that i cheated on her with are girls i have been JUST friends with for years. my girlfriend and i socialise with them, so i'm very scared that she will find outit might sound contradictory but i do love my girl a lot, almost in awe of her at times, often think shes too good for me. she probably is considering.i cant tell her i cheated because i think she mite breakdown.wen i cheated i battled with my conscious to not do it,not react to the "come ons", but i LOST!Why am i like this? maybe the obvious answer is that i'm a Man!But how can i control myself?i really dont want 2 hurt her, but due to the long distance relationship i feel i'm going to let her down and myself.Thanks for reading!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2008): U have a tough situation. We all make mistakes. Both men and women. Its good that u do feel guilty cause it shows that u do care. Long distance relationships are the hardest. But if u really do love her u have to try ur best to control urself and not fall into temptation. Its hard yes but if u two r meant to be then itll work. You shouldnt punish her like this cause shes just going to study and do what she wants. I hope ive been a little help to you. Like they say.. You dont realize what u have til its gone. And those girls are not good friends. To either one of you. I wish u the best in ur relationship.
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